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[ieuleron]

I just met my ex-gf's new fiancé.   I had recently found myself re-evaluating my rationale to leave her and coming (again) to the conclusion that it was the right thing to do.   They are a much better match than she and I ever were and I am really glad for it, but there is still the odd sense of having been kicked in the stomach.   There didn't

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[stalk_her]

Didn't you guys just break up??

[ieuleron]

I left about a year ago, because I didn't really have the choice to stay

[stalk_her]

ugh that sounds like a bad time. i also dealt with the sneakyness. he swore up and down things never got physical. i found a lot of texts and then he locked all his electronic devices so he could continue sexting these girls he saw every day. all of them thought he was single. he would even go drink with them at bars in a large group. i always begged him to take me but he always said it would be weird because they were school friends or work friends and no one else was bringing their gfs. pssh. and then i had a quick rebound and I was called the cheater... because how could anyone rebound so quickly without having seen the person while i was still attached?! And I also had the physical sickness right before moving out. I felt like a crumbled wall. because i wanted to make it work but didn't know how that would be possible. so sad.

i can't believe how you had such a long relationship with a girl that never saw your family or friends. they should have chewed your butt up and down! that's not ok!

you deserve so much

[ieuleron]

She did see my friends and family a few times, but she never saw any cause to get to know them. My sister-in-law said (to another person I know) that I was "extremely patient" with the ex.

The fiancé is a better match for my ex than I ever was. They have more common hobbies, similar level of ambition, dietary preferences, etc.

Everyone deserves better, but not everyone gets what they deserve.