wtf?!

[igbykat]

Okay, so, I am now in an official relationship with the Date Guy (better name to come). He's been nothing but sweet to me. He plans and executes dates and does not complain. He brought me a freaking huge bouquet of flowers on Valentine's. He's awesome

Comments

[popculturespong]

Jeez, Kat, you're so popular.

Look, I think you should give this new guy a chance. You don't know him well yet, but get to know him. And if it doesn't work out...
It seems like you and TGG keep hurting each other. I'm not saying you don't care about him, or that if you were to get back together with that it wouldn't work out, but that it's worth letting this new guy have a chance.

[igbykat]

That's what ended up happening. It was heartbreaking to do, but honestly, I think I'm way happier now. I told TGG that I would be getting back together with him with huge misgivings, and that wasn't fair to either one of us.

Date Guy...amazing. So nice. I mean, we've only been dating for a little less than a month, but he's really great.

[troublesrollby]

Your milkshake brings all the boys to the yard! ;)

I sat see where the thing with the new guy goes. I'm of the 'never go back to someone who hurt you' philosophy.

[igbykat]

Hee! I should put that on a resume. :)

I'm glad I didn't go back to TGG. Two chances was enough.

[prettywordslike]

It seems like whenever someone gets back with an ex, they're happy for a little while until they remember why they broke up in the first place.

I think you owe yourself a change with someone new. Not to mention that going back to your ex would probably really hurt the new guy. I guess the thing is, you go with this new guy, you're super happy, the end. OR, you go with new guy, you're not happy, and maybe one day you go back to your ex who you were meant for or something.

It just sounds like you need to take a step forward.

And if all else fails, flip a coin. ;)

[igbykat]

The coin flip was a good idea. :)

I decided on the step forward. I would probably have kicked myself for letting the opportunity with the new guy go by the wayside. Granted, we've only been dating for a little while, so things are still at the "ideal" phase, but he's so nice to me, it's almost weird.

[roxybluegirl7]

I'd see where things go with the new guy.

I wonder if things with TGG are more about comfort than happiness at this point, just because he's broken your heart twice. You've given him two chances, and maybe at some point you two will be at the same point, but right now you have a guy who, as you said, makes you happy and seems willing to put effort into a relationship with you.

So yeah, get to know Date Guy and see what happens.

[igbykat]

I think considering getting back together with TGG was about comfort, to a big degree. I mean, I knew exactly what to expect, which was comforting...but then again, I also knew that there was a good chance he'd hurt me again. Date Guy is definitely willing to put in more effort. He even called me - voluntarily - just to talk. It was crazy.

[bjorks_defender]

Just wanted to drop a note to say that I hope things are going okay! -hug-

[igbykat]

Thank you! Things are going really well. :D