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[iknowitsasong]

In talking with my Mom and Aunt this weekend it came to light that my invitation to go to Hawaii with them was conditional. I would have to lose weight in order to be allowed to go and visit while they are in Maui

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[so_zanie]

Boundaries are so very, very important. It's good that you understand this, even if they do not.

[aztecknight]

They are good people. I know they are. You see this the right way. Do not play games. Just do what will make you feel good.

[moonflake1978]

I think the idea of going on vacation with them is a bit insane if they expect you to lose weight first. Seriously, I know their intentions are good but holy crap that is just wrong! I think you are too smart and pretty to let someone like that get to you. I like the idea of you going on a you centered vacation.

[spoon_o_doom]

I am sorry your family cannot recognize how much their words can hurt. I, like you, understand that they mean well, but an "offer" like that would hurt my feelings, too.

I can't picture someone as fabulous as you settling for a man who would be so shallow that he would accept or reject you based on your dress size. Your family needs to know that being in a committed relationship or marriage is no guarantee that one won't grow old alone. Some married people feel very much alone because they "settled."

I once had a very tall, dark and handsome singer in a reggae band tell me that men who won't love big women are just insecure - they think tiny women make their dicks look bigger. (Yes, he was hitting on me! Hehe!)
Sometimes the best words of wisdom are also the funniest.

[gwynubis]

*hug*
Wow, a conditional vacation? yikes.
Find a good vacation place on your terms.