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iliachenvaar

Also, on the topic of bathing suits:

Jul 28, 2010 21:20

I sometimes feel self-conscious in a bikini. Like, I am exposing my chubby bits for other people to see: THE HORROR. At some point, I became Too Fat to Wear a Bikini. Yes, I know I'm not actually fat, but I grew up in a culture that says that if (you're a girl and) your ribs aren't showing, you're too fat. I think my ribs stopped showing when I ( Read more... )

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nebanebet July 29 2010, 04:34:54 UTC

Yes, you will look amazing! Two-pieces are awesome for curves, and you have them!

(And actually, back when the choice was between bikinis and one-pieces, guess what I, having always been Entirely Too Fat To Wear A Bikini, wore? Yep. One-pieces. No way a bikini was even remotely an option.)

Of course I also have this weird thing where I don't like how it feels to have my skin exposed, especially my stomach, so that may have also had something to do with it -- even tankinis make me uncomfortable because they seem like they would inevitably ride up.

But it's hard to tease out the tangled ideas of modesty, "oh god no one wants to see that," feeling genuinely exposed and not liking it, and a nasty idea that raised its ugly head a few months back saying that my "trying to be sexy" or wearing things directly associated with "sexiness" was ridiculous in the extreme (because I am not conventionally attractive, even if there are definitely people who do find me so and I have no reason to argue with them.)

iliachenvaar July 29 2010, 15:55:13 UTC

Eh, yes. Sometimes I think I would be more comfortable in something more covering just because I generally don't like wearing small amounts of clothing. I mean, this is the person that never wears shorts in public. But then I'm like, are there any bathing suits that are that covering? And no, there really aren't. I don't know. *shrug. (Another post, incoming!)

zimboptoo July 29 2010, 05:02:56 UTC

Damn skippy!

sharyna July 29 2010, 07:54:41 UTC

I, uh....huh. What? One-pieces are for old people? I've never thought that in my life. I've also never worn a bikini in my life. EVER. Horrendous moments in fitting rooms where the fact that I have not curves, but a decently prodigious belly which protrudes over the top of basically any bikini bottom and therefore forces it down, which is gross on a comfort level (particularly when, although I have no visible hips to speak of, I definitely have huge thighs), aside ( ... )

iliachenvaar July 29 2010, 15:41:46 UTC

Uh. Pardon my fail. ._.

I mean, it's true, I'm at least mostly aware that this is something in my head and not something that is actually true in real life. I know non-old-lady-people wear one-pieces; you are not the only one of my friends who does! But still. It's not something I have put a lot of thought into. >_< I'm sorry.

iliachenvaar July 29 2010, 18:29:56 UTC

Also, I do not feel bashed. I mean, that's one of the things friends are for, right? To whack you upside the head when you say something thoughtless? XD

Sometimes I feel like I should never open my mouth, because so often I seem to wind up sticking my foot in it. But aside from the obvious downsides, if I never opened my mouth I would never reconsider my more unfortunate statements, because no one would ever whack me upside the head! So clearly, this is the way to go. *grin.