My boyfriend is constantly stressing me out. He manages to turn many things that are important to me around to make them about himself, and I just don't know how to deal with his overwrought emotions on... well... everything. I saw you posting some advice in another COMM and thought you might be able to give me some tips & tricks for the truly patient, which you seem to be.
First of all, *hug*. Take a deep breath. Preventing yourself from drowning in stress is about allowing some space and me-time so you don't get overwhelmed. Your boyfriend sounds like he might not have his priorities entirely worked out, but I want you to take a moment to really think about this line you posted:
"He manages to turn many things that are important to me around to make them about himself..."Is he doing this to take the limelight away from you? Is he doing this because it's his way of venting? Is he doing this because he does not recognize he's making things about himself? Can you honestly say that he's selfish in all areas of your relationship and how he treats you, or just when he feels threatened
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Thank you for the super helpful advice! I know this response is late but I wanted to wait a few days until I came back with some real results. Boyfriend really sat down with me and heard me out, and I took some of your suggestions and some of my friend's suggestions and used them which really seemed work. My boyfriend said he didn't feel like I was attacking his character which is usually how it feels, and we've both come up with boundaries for ourselves! Thank you so much, Katy!
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you're so friendly! <3
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"He manages to turn many things that are important to me around to make them about himself..."Is he doing this to take the limelight away from you? Is he doing this because it's his way of venting? Is he doing this because he does not recognize he's making things about himself? Can you honestly say that he's selfish in all areas of your relationship and how he treats you, or just when he feels threatened ( ... )
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