It's sad when you realize that you would do almost anything for someone, but that they wouldn't do it for you. I've grown too attached to him again...and it's smacking me in the face. Hard
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i agree, "the one who loves the other less, is the one who is in control" i used to be in control also, but its not like that anymore. and sometimes it sucks because sometimes when you are the one in control and you love the other person less...you end up wanting something else.
i dont know what it is about having them either. its not that we cant get other guys or sex or being alone. i dunno, when the person isnt around...it just feels like something is missing. like a part of you is missing. i dont know why we let them hurt us. probably cuz we just want them so much. its just so unfair.
but if he hurts u, tell him. and if hes a dick about it, cut him off for a bit. they always come crawling back.
But I can agree with mel, "the one who loves the other less, is the one who is in control". That used to happen to me a lot. It's just a matter of not being dependent on someone. It's a bit of a learning curve to not be dependent on the one you love, but everyone gets there, it just takes time.
Sorry for the "rubbing in your face" statement I'm about to make, but I'm really happy in my relationship and have been for over a year. It's rare for two people to love each other the same amount, but I really haven't run into any problems, and it's not so needy. Sure we run into fights about where we want to eat, or no money problems, but not that much( and that's every relationship ). I just give trust her and give her space and she gives me mine. We're pretty understanding and realize what the other one needs, so it's really LEVEL. It's all just a matter if your significant other is on the same wave length with you.
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i agree, "the one who loves the other less, is the one who is in control" i used to be in control also, but its not like that anymore. and sometimes it sucks because sometimes when you are the one in control and you love the other person less...you end up wanting something else.
i dont know what it is about having them either. its not that we cant get other guys or sex or being alone. i dunno, when the person isnt around...it just feels like something is missing. like a part of you is missing. i dont know why we let them hurt us. probably cuz we just want them so much. its just so unfair.
but if he hurts u, tell him. and if hes a dick about it, cut him off for a bit. they always come crawling back.
thats what i do...but then look where i am.
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But I can agree with mel, "the one who loves the other less, is the one who is in control". That used to happen to me a lot. It's just a matter of not being dependent on someone. It's a bit of a learning curve to not be dependent on the one you love, but everyone gets there, it just takes time.
Sorry for the "rubbing in your face" statement I'm about to make, but I'm really happy in my relationship and have been for over a year. It's rare for two people to love each other the same amount, but I really haven't run into any problems, and it's not so needy. Sure we run into fights about where we want to eat, or no money problems, but not that much( and that's every relationship ). I just give trust her and give her space and she gives me mine. We're pretty understanding and realize what the other one needs, so it's really LEVEL. It's all just a matter if your significant other is on the same wave length with you.
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