OK, I want some real answers on this. I know none of you probally will post a comment, but I'm going to ask anyways to see a few different points of view
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Sadly, it's pretty much true. About the only female friends of mine that I would not be willing to have sex with are ones that I find unattractive (but they are usually the ones that want to have sex with me... life plays such cruel jokes
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But you see, that's more how I viewed it, while this guy tried to pound into me that I didn't know what I was talking about because I'm not a man.
I understand the differences in men and women with emotional and physicak sex. I could go on for hours. I just was stunned for a man to try to tell me that the only reason any guy is ever friends with a girl is b/c he wants to bang her, and her personality doesn't turn him off.
It boggled my mind to think that a guy could not care about personality and what you have to say, b/c he just seemed like such a lie. I've known too many guys that I have been close friends with. The only thing that did stun me and trip me up for a minute was the fact that many of these guys have had some type of feelings for me at one time or another, and eventually it ended our friendships, though we can still be cool and hang out, we can't be too close.
"I see" said the blind manbardweiserAugust 21 2003, 12:33:41 UTC
If the guy was telling you this in reference to another guy (or any other guy) that you are friends with, then he has feelings for you and is trying to get you to distance yourself from what he perceives as a threat.
If you and this guy are seeing each other, then he is suffering from an insecurity issue (whether his issue has merit or not is a totally different discussion :p).
If the guy was telling you this just in general conversation, then he's got either zero depth or just came from a rough emotional situation and is trying to over-compensate for some hurt he may be feeling from it.
Re: "I see" said the blind manillusionssoulAugust 21 2003, 12:53:04 UTC
Well, if you read some of my back entries (I added you as a friend), you'll kind of see the whole situation.
It's his view wholey on himself and any other guy. It's truthfully made me have less respect for him b/c in turn, it makes me feel like he doesn't have as much respect for me as he says he does.
I dunno about that... I've had a LOT of really good female friends who I wasn't interested in boning down with. Then again, I've also had female friends with whom I wouldn't have minded if things progressed to the next level.
If a guy friend is so concerned with "offering dick", then he's really not a very good friend.
Thank you, I agree. I argued this point for 2 hours with that guy Franc. I believe int he fact that even though I know some friends wouldn't mind sleeping with me, that that's not the only reason they want to be my friend. I thought it was too sterotypical.
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I understand the differences in men and women with emotional and physicak sex. I could go on for hours. I just was stunned for a man to try to tell me that the only reason any guy is ever friends with a girl is b/c he wants to bang her, and her personality doesn't turn him off.
It boggled my mind to think that a guy could not care about personality and what you have to say, b/c he just seemed like such a lie. I've known too many guys that I have been close friends with. The only thing that did stun me and trip me up for a minute was the fact that many of these guys have had some type of feelings for me at one time or another, and eventually it ended our friendships, though we can still be cool and hang out, we can't be too close.
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If you and this guy are seeing each other, then he is suffering from an insecurity issue (whether his issue has merit or not is a totally different discussion :p).
If the guy was telling you this just in general conversation, then he's got either zero depth or just came from a rough emotional situation and is trying to over-compensate for some hurt he may be feeling from it.
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It's his view wholey on himself and any other guy. It's truthfully made me have less respect for him b/c in turn, it makes me feel like he doesn't have as much respect for me as he says he does.
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If a guy friend is so concerned with "offering dick", then he's really not a very good friend.
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I'm Lindsay.
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