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[renewedme]

Unfortunately I don't like to do things like this, but it has been brought to my attention ( here) that some people feel as if I should be banned from this community. I would like to know why because I feel as if either 1, many of you are being spoken for in a manner that you aren't aware of, or 2, I'm being singled out because I've spoken in a way

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[sylvera_sidhe]

me too! about a month for me. give or take a few days anyways. i can't wait for him to get home.
i like ya. it wasn't me. :)

[renewedme]

That's so great!! Isn't it such a wonderful feeling to know the past however many months are almost just a memory!?!

Thank you :)

[sylvera_sidhe]

oh yeah. he gets a little vacation too, before he even gets home! 5 days in australia! my world traveler. :)

[renewedme]

Oh really?? How does he get to go to Australia? I know my fiance would LOVE to do that :) :)

[believe_in_me]

I have no idea what you said or did to be talked down to, or maybe it's because you're a 'barracks bunny' and not important like the rest of the Army wives, wait hang on, I'll be right back I need to roll my eyes.

I don't know who's laughing at you unless it's this Italian chick's voices in her head. The way she talks down to PEOPLE JUST ON THE INTERNET makes me sad for her kids because if she's that comfortable talking to people she doesn't know like that then it's a sad thing for her kids and husband.

Should you get banned it's no loss you just don't have to be put down by a girl who wears her husband's rank her sleeve, no loss.

[renewedme]

Definitely.

If I was being a royal pain I'd completely understand her reaction, while it wouldn't be acceptable in that situation either. I thought I was being rather nice :)

By the way, your kitty icon made me laugh so hard. My cat is just staring at it (ok, so she's not too bright!).

[hisrisingstar]

Less then 2 weeks for me (way less, but I dont want to get any more specific, lol)! OMG, after 15 months of hell, its finally coming to an end. Oh, and I think a ANY mod who says army fiances arent imporant in a military SUPPORT community, should be automatically banned. I mean, we were all fiances once, it doesnt make fiances any less important because they dont have a sheet of paper. Superiority complex much? That comment was WAY over the line.

[renewedme]

Oh how exciting!! I'm fortunate that my fiance will only be gone a few days shy of 14 months. The last 2 months have been the worst (they are creeping by!).

I'm all my fiance has. His parents have passed and his grandfather just passed a few weeks ago. If it wasn't for me he wouldn't have any support at home. I'm not being conceited, but he needs me more than anything. I'm proud to stand next to him :)

[renewedme]

I haven't been around the military life for an extended period of time. I had absolutely no idea how some of the wives acted until I saw the drama first hand. Fortunately the drama had nothing to do with me, but I just don't understand it.

Truthfully rank means nothing to me. Outside of the military no one cares. Rank is no different than moving up in a job.

Oh well. We all know who to look out for when we post!

[faerie86]

I don't know what it was that you said that was disapproving because I don't usually read comments, but from the conversation between you and the mod, she seemed the one causing the drama. She's a mod. If people are really complaining about you as much as she says they are, she should just ban you (not that I'm saying you should be banned, again, I don't know why people have said this). It seems to me that more drama was started because this was brought up publicly to the community rather than privately between the two of you.

I am curious though as to what comments you made that were inappropriate.

[renewedme]

I didn't delete any comments.

Personally, I feel her actions need to be called to attention. Initially I felt like this was a community where I could get support and give support and share stories with others who were in my shoes.

After the comments I have received I don't feel comfortable. I want others to feel comfortable. I asked her in the post who didn't want me here and I didn't get a response. This is my way of getting a response.

I really hope things change. I hope other wives, fiance's, girlfriends, and loved ones will soon feel comfortable to make posts about happy things (such as deployments being over) and not so happy things (such as deployments beginning). It's the communities on LJ and my friends on LJ who really helped me through some of the toughest times, and for that I am eternally grateful.

[faerie86]

I didn't say you did delete comments. I liked how in your post you pointed out, in black and white, the comments that seemed inappropriate. Rather than digging through posts and finding what comments you made that someone could construe to be mean, I was asking if you knew. I didn't think you would or else you wouldn't make this post. I also agree that her actions should be brought up because she said that you have broken rules, yet I still don't know how or where

[renewedme]

I didn't take it that way :) Sorry if I wasn't clear!

I don't think the post was about me. I didn't e-mail the mod, so I assume it's not. I'm upset that a mod feels it's ok to treat others with such disrespect!

I'm hoping for a change. I'm going to try to become more active and post interactive questions. I think if we get more people involved this community will really shine!

[lil_insanity]

I think that her comments about how you don't matter to anyone unless you're married were completely uncalled for. Even though I don't post much, this is where I come when my support forum goes down (and it's been going down a lot lately) because this community is a lot smaller than the other military support LJ community I'm a member of and it feels more personal. However, when all I see are snarky posts and the mods saying such mean things to the members, I get discouraged. I've been even less inclined to say anything than usual because I didn't want that anger directed at me when I already have enough to deal with at the moment- I was worried that somebody would call me a "barracks bunny" too and say that I'm useless to my boyfriend (even though I support him more than his "actual" family does and I know that I'm very important to him). None of us deserve to be insulted in a SUPPORT forum. If someone is so damned against unmarried couples, maybe they should make their own community for wives only

[renewedme]

Thanks! Sometimes I come to communities like this so I can get opinions outside of my friends. I tend to surround myself with people like me so I'd like to have different opinions.

Truthfully my feelings weren't hurt a bit. Growing up my mom taught us to consider the source when someone says something hateful. Like you, I am my fiance's family. I know where I stand :)

It's so great to have homecoming dates! Hopefully your guy is coming home around Christmas? The holidays are for families :)