I think it depends and of course it's different for everyone, but generally waiting a while is a good idea. I think this is especially true if someone started dating someone they didn't know beforehand. I've heard too many horror stories to think that getting married to someone one knows for only a month to think that's a good idea!
I personally think at least a year is reasonable, but probably even longer than that. Of course living together first is a good idea because it gives a good sense of what's to come. The way I figure it is, what's the hurry? Two people can be happy together without being married and that way if things go sour, there's no need for the legal uglies of a divorce.
I think you need to field test living together for at least 1-2 years. Also, people under 25 are still undergoing a formative process and can change rapidly. This happened with a friend of mine, she got married after less than a year of dating, and got divorced after less than a year of marriage.
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I personally think at least a year is reasonable, but probably even longer than that. Of course living together first is a good idea because it gives a good sense of what's to come. The way I figure it is, what's the hurry? Two people can be happy together without being married and that way if things go sour, there's no need for the legal uglies of a divorce.
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What about those couples who swear they are madly, passionately, euphorically in love after 20 years of marriage?
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