it is your dection and that is what you will live with. once you are satisfied with the reasons for having an abortion, then, you will not have to deal with any guilt or negative feelings toward it.
I don't actually think that's true. I'm perfectly satisfied with my reasons for having an abortion, but there's still guilt. Why didn't the chromosomes divide correctly? Was there anything I could have done? I feel bad that I wasn't able to carry the pregnancy to term, and that the fetus was so profoundly damaged. Regardless of what a woman's reasons are for having an abortion, there may be guilt and negative feelings. It's a complicated experience.
i know that the questions of whether or not you could have done something is natural...you know that there is nothing that you could have possibly done. sometimes nature, including outselves, has mutations. i am sorry you have to have conflicting thoughts.
::Hug:: I can't imagine what you're going through right now. It must have been an unbelievably hard choice to make. I realize that a stranger's opinion probably has very little weight, but I think you're a phenomenally brave person who had to face a heartbreaking decision. I hope that you'll be able to make peace with what happened after time, I'm so sorry that's a choice you had to make.
Also, your insurance company seriously sucks. I am appalled at the ever increasing parent-centric values of our society. Your reason to terminate in absolutely as valid as a woman whose life is in danger. Screw your insurance company. =(
I'm glad you're feeling all right :) I'm TTC right now myself, so I can imagine how disappointing and upsetting it is to lose a wanted pregnancy.
Sounds like you've got a lot of anti-choicers eager to chime in with their judgments on the morality of your decision. Good for you for staying strong despite their unwanted advice.
I get very annoyed with "pro-life" people who claim (or would claim) that my experience is somehow morally superior to those of women who abort because they don't want to be pregnant.
That would piss me off too :) How obnoxious it must be to you to listen to people sanctioning your choice... like "oh, well, it's ok because YOU had a good excuse." I'd be like "Uh, who even ASKED you? What gives you the mistaken impression that it's your right to judge me, or any other woman?"
I had an abortion 5 years ago and I get really irritated when people want me to "explain why" so they can see if they approve.
I often tell people who put me in a morally inferior position because I had a healthy pregnancy, but chose to abort that though I may have had physiologically healthy pregnancy and would have had a healthy baby, neither I nor my baby would have had a healthy life -- I suspect our life would have been psychologically and economically unhealthy.
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Also, your insurance company seriously sucks. I am appalled at the ever increasing parent-centric values of our society. Your reason to terminate in absolutely as valid as a woman whose life is in danger. Screw your insurance company. =(
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Sounds like you've got a lot of anti-choicers eager to chime in with their judgments on the morality of your decision. Good for you for staying strong despite their unwanted advice.
I get very annoyed with "pro-life" people who claim (or would claim) that my experience is somehow morally superior to those of women who abort because they don't want to be pregnant.
That would piss me off too :) How obnoxious it must be to you to listen to people sanctioning your choice... like "oh, well, it's ok because YOU had a good excuse." I'd be like "Uh, who even ASKED you? What gives you the mistaken impression that it's your right to judge me, or any other woman?"
I had an abortion 5 years ago and I get really irritated when people want me to "explain why" so they can see if they approve.
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