Well... we'll see where that goes, eh?

[inanna]

i just hit send on an email to my half-sister. i've never met her - my mother gave her up for adoption when my mother was a young woman - but she contacted my mom a couple weeks ago and here we are

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[hottoastermama]

It is a complicated thing, but I am heart warmed for your mother's resolution. I am not in the exact same boat, but my oldest child has at least one half sibling on his father's side, plus that father he doesn't remember or know. He does show interest, but he knows he has to wait and why, and that he may not have a welcome reception. He doesn't know about the other sibling yet, and she may not know about him. All in time, and I can only hope for what I see in you and and your family. I want to give you blessings and encouragement for choosing to reach out, and for being authentic in your feelings. But I think it's in the seeking or connecting that we honor our ties, and I do believe it's the recognition, the honor, the acknowledgment of our being that each of us wants rather than a fleeting emotion. It's amazing what the gesture of an open hand can do, for both the recipient and the gifter. Love ya, hon'!

[debrafortune]

Let me know how it goes.

I have a half sibling that was placed for adoption as an infant (I was placed at birth) and met her once. It was incredibly surreal as we have similar looks and builds. I doubt we'll ever be close though since her attitude toward our mutual birth mother is starkly negative and closed off and mine is open and positive.

[chiropteraclan]

I really do want to find my birth mom one day. Supposedly I have 4 older half-siblings too. I have never really tried that hard to find her though. I've never been financially in a situation where I was able to get the lawyer I would need (since I was adopted through the Mormon church, it takes all kinds of legal power to do so).

As far as your situation goes, I would love to hear how this goes, if you ever do decide to meet or anything.

[singingnettle]

I think perhaps it's different from the adoptee side of the fence. As an adoptee, you have this big black hole in your history, and anything that helps fill that in for you is very exciting. In your own bio-family, though, you know who you are, and finding another semi-family member is probably more like, "Huh. That's interesting." For a lot of people who grew up with their bio-families, the "need" element isn't there.