sigh,...sadly, i went through this with my brother. all you can ultimately do is sit them down and tell them, straight-faced (well, you know what i mean ;) ), and SERIOUS how you are concerned for their well-being. you can do the intervention thing. i did. ultimately though, that was more painful than helpful.
i'm sorry to tell ya babe, but, ultimately it's up to them.
i have to learn over and over about how much it hurts to see those you love in pain and ultimately how you can't do shit.
but that's just my experience. your's is completely unique and different. try to just be there. maybe it's not as bad a drug prob as my bro's though, and i sound like a dork.
Anyway, yea, I hate the fact that no matter what I do, she is the only one who can help herself. I just hate sitting in the sidelines, feeling like I'm losing her, and seeing how much she's hurting herself. I tried confronting her the other day about it but all she did was weirdly laugh, denied it, and changed the subject. I guess all I can do is be there... it sucks. *sigh*
She's doing a lot of different stuff actually. Individually, they're not bad... but she's combining them. She's doing Ritalin, Adderal (both without a perscription)plus lots of caffine pills. She takes a lot of each and is dangerously close to ODing most the time. The only reason she takes them is to study for college but her use is a bit excessive and its just fucking up her body and her life. And she likes doing pot and drinking a lot too. I don't care so much that she's doing pot and drinking... but the other stuff is just dangerous combined...
so we'll see how this pans out. I tried confronting her about it the other day but she just laughed really weird, denied it and changed the subject.
I guess my major dilemma is losing her... She's been my best friend for 10 years but I feel like I'll lose her no matter what I do. Its complicated.
I would definitely talk to her about and tell her your worried. Honestly, there's not much you can do. You can be there as a supporting friend and a shoulder to cry on but it has to be her who decides to stop.
Thanks for the advice. I plan to confront her before next semester starts... all the while trying to support her in a way that doesn't make her clam up and defensive.
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i'm sorry to tell ya babe, but, ultimately it's up to them.
i have to learn over and over about how much it hurts to see those you love in pain and ultimately how you can't do shit.
but that's just my experience. your's is completely unique and different. try to just be there. maybe it's not as bad a drug prob as my bro's though, and i sound like a dork.
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Anyway, yea, I hate the fact that no matter what I do, she is the only one who can help herself. I just hate sitting in the sidelines, feeling like I'm losing her, and seeing how much she's hurting herself. I tried confronting her the other day about it but all she did was weirdly laugh, denied it, and changed the subject. I guess all I can do is be there... it sucks. *sigh*
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i know.
i'm so sorry. i hate this shit.
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...but he's alive.
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What are the addicted too?
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so we'll see how this pans out. I tried confronting her about it the other day but she just laughed really weird, denied it and changed the subject.
I guess my major dilemma is losing her... She's been my best friend for 10 years but I feel like I'll lose her no matter what I do. Its complicated.
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I would definitely talk to her about and tell her your worried. Honestly, there's not much you can do. You can be there as a supporting friend and a shoulder to cry on but it has to be her who decides to stop.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
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