I had my close friend humor me and take the MB test this weekend, as our relationship seems strained. I was interested to see what she was, and how that may be contributing to the dynamic
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Yes I am very,very introverted. I require incredibly long periods of time to myself, etc.
My therapist says I am very introverted as well..
She is definitely very extroverted, and I feel the disconnect. That is what is hard. Is I can feel it is there. The rift has gotten bigger.
We have both been through a lot in the last few months, separately in our own lives, which probably is causing underlying tension.
I plan on saying something the next time she interrupts me. I have spoken up before in as far as "I am not done with my story. Can I finish please?" when she, or she and her husband totally run over it...but I am going to have to be a bit more firm in a kind way and let her know it bothers me I think.
She definitely cares and is a good friend, we just have these incredible personality conflicts lately. or perhaps always have, and because I have grown and changed so much over this past year, they are starting to bother me.
I had a friend who I think is an ENFJ. I would often feel like she was controlling our friendship and getting things her way, which I know had a lot to do with my personality too, but I just got really sick of how she tended to be, so now we're not friends anymore and I think it's probably for the best for both of us.
my best friend is an ENFP and we get along amazingly. I always consider her, of my other close friends, the one that is closest to me as we don't have a lot of conflict and usually end up being one another's "partner in crime". I love that we don't have to make plans and can just say weird things and we know what we are talking about. I do have a weak I though.
I love that we don't have to make plans and can just say weird things and we know what we are talking about.
Yes I love this about her too. We will be watching I movie and I can make a weird off hand about some character and she knows exactly what I mean, will follow up with another and we will be cracking up!
Things have gotten better. Since doing more reading about her personality type and mine..we are getting a long really well:-)
Two of my closest girlfriemds are ENFPs. Interestingly, one of them is married to an INFP.
I get along very well with both of them, value their friendships highly and cannot imagine my life without either of them in it. In both cases they have an understanding of the MBTI and what extravert and introvert actually mean. To use the example of finishing sentences: They both recognise that I need time to put my thoughts into words, and give me time in conversation to do so. I also recognise that sometimes I'm too slow for their extraverted mind and they just have to get whatever it is they want to say out - I can come back to what I want to say afterwards. It works that way in both friendships (although one friend is more patient with me than the other). I think this is the key, not just with INFP/ENFP friendships but with any friendship, to understand and respect your friends for who they are, and expect the same in return.
Okay so I saw this post a tad late.damnedflowersAugust 15 2007, 19:35:26 UTC
My best friend of ALL TIME is an ENFP. He's supporting, caring, full of fun and we NEVER EVER fight. Not once in all our years of knowing each other. He's my partner in crime and my shoulder to lean on. I simply couldn't live without him. He's amazing.
He's like my twin brother. My gay twin brother. The only thing that bothers me about him is that he doesn't stick up for himself and I find myself being his "Mother Hen". I always tease him about having a backbone as well. But really, other than that, we fit like puzzle pieces.
Re: Okay so I saw this post a tad late.whatsername_31August 16 2007, 04:21:05 UTC
My friend has a very strong personality, but a hard time saying no. Although she has gotten much better since I have known her, and apparently is a million times better than she used to be...
I, on the other hand, have no problems saying no. Which is odd...LOL.
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My therapist says I am very introverted as well..
She is definitely very extroverted, and I feel the disconnect. That is what is hard. Is I can feel it is there. The rift has gotten bigger.
We have both been through a lot in the last few months, separately in our own lives, which probably is causing underlying tension.
I plan on saying something the next time she interrupts me. I have spoken up before in as far as "I am not done with my story. Can I finish please?" when she, or she and her husband totally run over it...but I am going to have to be a bit more firm in a kind way and let her know it bothers me I think.
She definitely cares and is a good friend, we just have these incredible personality conflicts lately. or perhaps always have, and because I have grown and changed so much over this past year, they are starting to bother me.
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Yes I love this about her too. We will be watching I movie and I can make a weird off hand about some character and she knows exactly what I mean, will follow up with another and we will be cracking up!
Things have gotten better. Since doing more reading about her personality type and mine..we are getting a long really well:-)
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I get along very well with both of them, value their friendships highly and cannot imagine my life without either of them in it. In both cases they have an understanding of the MBTI and what extravert and introvert actually mean. To use the example of finishing sentences: They both recognise that I need time to put my thoughts into words, and give me time in conversation to do so. I also recognise that sometimes I'm too slow for their extraverted mind and they just have to get whatever it is they want to say out - I can come back to what I want to say afterwards. It works that way in both friendships (although one friend is more patient with me than the other). I think this is the key, not just with INFP/ENFP friendships but with any friendship, to understand and respect your friends for who they are, and expect the same in return.
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He's supporting, caring, full of fun and we NEVER EVER fight. Not once in all our years of knowing each other. He's my partner in crime and my shoulder to lean on. I simply couldn't live without him. He's amazing.
He's like my twin brother. My gay twin brother.
The only thing that bothers me about him is that he doesn't stick up for himself and I find myself being his "Mother Hen". I always tease him about having a backbone as well. But really, other than that, we fit like puzzle pieces.
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I, on the other hand, have no problems saying no. Which is odd...LOL.
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