being insecure

[inizitu]

I'm really afraid of scaring away the new boy by being my normal, grumpy self. Of course, said new boy has only been around for all of two weeks, so I should be nowhere near showing him that yet, should I? How comfortable should you be around each other at what stage? Is there an acceptable timetable for such things

Comments

[starltwanderer]

it varies by the people hon. you're not going to know all the answers immediately.

[threemilechild]

Shouldn't you be your normal self from the beginning? Or is that why everyone is always breaking up all the time?

[inizitu]

It seems like in the beginning, when first meeting people, we're all on our best behavior- then, as you get more comfortable, the gloves come off. We've all got flaws that maybe we don't show to everyone-until we're close.

One of my flaws is a tendency to be moody, which I try not to subject new people to too early =op

[threemilechild]

Yeah, I guess that's true, and I think most people are that way. I don't tend to bother with it myself -- it just seems kind of pointless to me to put on an act that you have no intention of keeping up.