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[ioanna]

I had a minor freakout the other day about the baby and how expensive everything is and whether I will make a good mother or even an adequate mother, etc. The boyfriend said "You'll do fine. Just don't drop the baby and it will be just fine

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[atdelphi]

I think he might be setting the bar a little low but it was comforting.

If you want to set it even lower: everyone drops their baby at least once, or trips going up the stairs with the baby in their arms, and the baby is always fine. Babies are made of rubber for the first few months.

[ioanna]

Hehe, reminds me of my dad, he was playing "airplane" with my brother, where he was basically lying in bed tossing him in the air and catching him again until he missed and dropped him behind the bed. My brother still has the scar but he made it just fine.

I am not actually planning to drop the little one to see if he bounces but I really hope I won't break him in anyway.

[it0376]

If you worry whether you'll be a good mom or not, you'll do fine. If you don't give a shit, then there is a problem.

[ioanna]

True, I just get stressed about things a bit because I was never the overly motherly type and have kept myself away from children in general. Mainly lack of interest. And I see those women who don't have kids yet but are talking to me about everything kid-related with such authority! It's just weird.

[it0376]

Reasonable! As long as you get google results for "how to change diaper", though, you should be good to go! For the first few years, at least ;-)

[ioanna]

Haha, I'll probably go on youtube for tutorials, that's what I do now for cooking. My history is full of stuff like: How to cut an artichoke, how to chop an onion, how to peel a leek and so on...

But I'll probably hire a midwife to help a bit with basic newborn care and with breastfeeding. Would rather pay someone than deal with some people who have been all about how they will be coming over to help me *shudder*

[gmth]

Those fears are completely natural. I bet you will surprise yourself at how good you are at everything once the baby is here. :D

[ioanna]

Well, I'll do my best. And either way, I'm the only mum he's going to have so he won't have anything to measure me against and find me lacking. :)

[ishtar79]

Seriously, even the maternity clothes? Their marketing strategy defines explanation.

And you'll be absolutely fine as a mum. If nothing else, there's little risk of you turning into Stepford mum (or like your colleagues), so the kid already has an advantage.

[ioanna]

Yeah, maternity wear shopping has been a frustrating and expensive experience. And then you have the boyfriend: "Just order jeans online".

No, seriously, jeans? If there is one thing you definitely need to try out before buying it, that's jeans! Would be true even if I didn't have to fit a pregnant belly in them.

[mummimamma]

Haha, I totally understand. Personally I have an idea that when you give birth (or possibly also by signing adoption papers) you magically acquire the "mum"-knowledge. The arcane stuff that makes me call my mother, and she always knows what to do. So just wait, everything will just magically appear in you brain! (Read: You'll do great!)

As for maternity clothes - stupid Greek stores! Are there any maternity shops? We have two here, so accounting for inhabitants you should have at least ... lots!

[ioanna]

Hehe, I will have to buckle up and do my best for the little one. We'll do fine. Might not be textbook and what every busybody cow-worker and relative will want us to do but we'll figure it out as we go along.

I do find stuff in Mothercare and Prenatal and other maternity stores. I actually got the jeans I'm wearing in the archery pic from Mothercare but they were 75 EUR. Ouch. Still, they fit well and they are pretty good quality unlike H&M. Plus, I found one H&M that actually had more variety in pregnancy clothes and found some my size. It's terrible quality but it's not like it's clothes I want to keep for a lifetime, or something. Being cheap is a lot more important.