the difference between truth and feeling

[irishdancerchik]

ok.

let me say something here.
I gave this much thought last night after talking with my sister...

there is a big difference in feeling something and being something.

like, I feel stupid because I didn't make it on the Dean's list again, and because I didn't pull my GPA up to at least a 2.7 this semester... but it doesn't mean I'm stupid!!! If anything

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[less_of_me_]

Yea it makes sense and I totally agree with you. I have a situation where I get really jealous that Noah has friends that are girls, and I hate when he hangs out with them. But I choose not to act on that feeling of jealousy by not doing what I'm tempted to do, which is forbidding him to spend any time with his gal friends. And it is still frustrating because I usually still feel the jealousy. But I think it helps that I continually make the choice not to act on it. When you say you feel stupid, you don't generally act on that feeling by doing other stupid things. It's important to separate feelings from truth, just as it seems you are trying to do. I constantly read you saying that you're stupid and you're a failure, but I know it's not true despite your shortcomings. We all fall short of our goals sometimes, and sometimes we do it more often than other times. But it's good that you've realized that just because you don't always reach your goals, you're not actually a failure or stupid. You just feel that way and hopefully you're

[emokills]

cough.
Failure (n): 1. lack of success
2. a falling short
3. Someone who has failed

Conclusion... Someone who doesn't reach their goals, are via definition, a failure. Maybe not stupid.. but a failure. ;P

Merry Christmas, have a good year.

[less_of_me_]

Gee I didn't think I had to clarify that I meant it in a general sense and that she didn't have to define herself by the times she does fall short. Cough.

[emokills]

In the general sense, everyone is a failure. Failure isn't always something to be upset about... but you know, that takes us in to the area of actually accepting a great many things that people so easily say they do, but never... really do.

Savvy?

[emokills]

Perception vs reality. ;P ahh fun times.

I'll revisit this one later.. I'm on my way out... otherwise there's a lot to be said. Sara, there's nothin really to get upset about ;P Maybe I'll post more later, maybe I won't. It's so hard to say.

[snipershide18]

you did better than I did this semester.