Frustrations with some members of the trans community.

[isa_burning]

I understand how vital, for some transpeople, passing can be.  It seems to me that it's vital for several reasons: 1) if you do indeed want to be perceived as the gender with which you identify, passing successfully is a large component of that, and it's often necessary for reassurance and validation, and 2) it cuts down on the potential, sometimes

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[bornbeautiful]

What happened to make you write this? Just a general need to write it? (By the way, I see no rambling. ^_^ Very well written

[moondaughter20]

We live in a heteronormative, binary society. I mean, now more than ever I see the blue and pink, pimp and ho, seperation of the sexes being pushed on people. It's brainwashing of the highest order and most people who are numbed under it are startled when confronted with things that challenge that

[bornbeautiful]

You are definitely right about all the cliches not really fitting. I'm a woman and I can't cook. heh. I am not very domestic at all to be honest. *shrug* I do like pink.

Sounds like that therapist knew what they were talking about. So many things in this world would be easier if society didn't force people to fit into boxes.

[isa_burning]

I loved your paint analogy, that was so perfect. ♥

And you're right - it is useful. I wish I had addressed that more. Some elements of the binary form the foundation for certain people, and there's nothing wrong with that.

But I love the concept of being able to be whatever you want a woman to be, absolutely, because that's so freeing! The reason I embrace androgyny is because I can define m/f for and within myself.

I don't like playing the game. I'm glad I'm find other people who don't like to, either. And I think the idea of an androgynous society, absolutely, would at least ease the sharpness of the boundary.

...and that's one smart therapist.

You always say such wise things! ♥