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[issafleckskin]

Jen and I were standing on the street corner, kissing and saying goodbye and she crosses part way across the srteet and some random guy passes her in his SUV and yells something I didn't quite catch. She yells Fuck You and flips him off and I catch what he says next

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[dragynflies]

*Hugs*

A couple of things I wanna say.

First, go you and Jen for even being out. I'm a damn coward, and I can admit it. The only place I've ever kissed Mel in public is the airport and Pride. I still get all wiggy even holding hands -- and so what if I've only known I'm bi since October? I should get over it. But it's still hard, because I'm scared of what happened to you guys. The crazy people in this world aren't us, it's them, but it doesn't make it any easier.

Secondly, I wanted to ask you this before but I didn't want to offend you -- but judging by your post, it's important. What do you want me to refer to you as? I've sort of just always used your name instead of a gender descripter because I know it's important, and I didn't want to be mean or anything. Because I love you (as a friend, Jen, I love her just as a friend...LOL) and I want you to at least feel comfortable around your friends.

Anyway. I have no advice, I'm just new at this. But you have my support anyway. :)

[issafleckskin]

I have been talking with Jen about the pronouns and stuff and how I am not sure what to tell people. If I say different things to different people, what. Jen made the point that if someone cares enough about me and respects me enough to figure out I'm not 100% girl, that they can handle it.

I would love it if you would refer to me as both. He and she, him and her, his and hers. I don't care if you switch back and forth or just say what you are preferring right now.

Thank you for asking and THANK YOU for your support. I love you too. :)

[swissly]

you're a brave person no matter what you identify as. some people can't handle people who are different, and those people are what we call "shitheads". try to keep a clear head around them, because you're going to turn out a hell of a lot better than they ever will. i can't tell you whether you should take a stand and start educating people - that needs to be about what feels right for YOU. sorry i'm not much help. i feel like that was really cryptic advice.

[issafleckskin]

B, you are always more help than you think you are. It means a lot that I know you read my babble and then say what you're thinking when I ask (and even when I don't). It was cryptic, but it was all about me making a choice about myself, and that's what makes you a good person to talk to, you make me figure it out for myself. Thanks little one.

[anth05]

i love you and...

i will always tell people to be out and educate. always.
you can change the world just by being out!

issa, you are a wonderful person.

and sidenote: thanks for the clarification on your "pgp" [to use a glsen word].