therealljidol, week 4: I don't skate to where the puck is. I skate to where the puck is going to be

[j0ydivided]

Dar told me, on our first date, that I was the sort of person her parents would hate

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[rswndrlst]

They don't like in-betweens. Black and white, and no shades of gray, or rainbow.

I can relate to this pretty hard, my family had trouble accepting it when I came out as a lesbian and then I fell in love with a woman who was actually trans and is now legally male and my family refuses to use male pronouns when I talk about him.

Even though we're not together anymore
it made me reevaluate my own sexuality and feelings about gender and I'm naturally attracted to androgenous people.

I had a friend tell me their mom got so upset when she cut her hair because it made her LOOK gay and she was like but I am and her mom was all but now you look like a lesbian. Keeping up appearances is so frustrating.

I am the black sheep of my family for more reasons than being a poly unicorn but the in-between spaces are my favorite places to be and I try not to let their judgment bother me anymore.

[j0ydivided]

The person that made me sit up and go, "wait, wow" is AFAB but IDs as genderqueer now that we're adults. My parents have never been comfortable using zir preferred pronouns. :/

In-betweens are great. I want to be accepted for being myself, not for the label I adhere to, so...that works well for me.

Thank you for reading. :)

[halfshellvenus]

This has such honesty in it that I didn't think of it as fiction, though it sounds as if parts of it are close to something you've lived. It was well-written, and it certainly made me think.

[j0ydivided]

Thank you! Parts of it are close, yes, but on the whole it's fiction.

[morettaallstar]

<3

All I really have a comment is hearts, and a weird little smile.

[j0ydivided]

Thank you. :)

[rayaso]

This had a strong feel of reality, which is outstanding. I appreciated the link. I hope you eventually have the relationship with your family that you would like to have.

[j0ydivided]

Thank you. We're slowly getting there. I've come fully out to everyone except my parents, at this point, and I'm living the life I want to live.

[bleodswean]

Compromise can feel so unpleasant. You really captured that uncomfortable friction with this piece.

[j0ydivided]

Thank you.