In my humble opinion, your sister is old enough to remember to order her own cap and gown and announcements. I also don't think one needs announcements at all, but I know that's very regional. I'd stop rescuing your sister right now. Tell her she's on her own to be a grown up now.
I think that's the direction I may go. She definitely does need to grow up... I just feel badly for my parents I guess; but they're grown ups. I need to break some of those attachments I think!
As far as feeling bad for parents, I am afraid it doesn't get better when they get much older than they are now, trust me. But there is only so much you can do and it seems like this is the time for Jacque to focus on Jacque (and Ryan and baby). Not to say you won't always want to help your folks. As you say, you need to take these lessons and plan things better for your own family.
It's a great idea to let it out here rather than to anyone IRL. You are a sweet and loyal daughter and I find it admirable that you want to protect them from criticism.
I am sorry that they are struggling right now. I remember when your father was so gravely ill ~ I am glad you still have him.
Jill, I am greatful every day that I have my father still in my life! It's funny all the little pieces of life that we take for granted until we come so close to losing them. Every day for him is still a battle, they say 5 years after transplant is that way. I think the most exciting part is that he'll be here for our baby this summer!!!
I was going to say what Jill already did. Plus it is hard to watch your parents go downhill. So sad and frustrating but you can only do so much. You are a good daughter, Jacque, and a really good person.
So where will you be when the baby is born? I have been meaning to ask you but you are a hard person to catch. :)
Jac, you learned from them how not to do it and you are going to be fine. See, your Mom instinct is already kicking in and getting you into doing this stuff. ;) I can only imagine how hard it is. *hugs* You are a strong gal and I know you'll do what you can.
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I think that's the direction I may go. She definitely does need to grow up... I just feel badly for my parents I guess; but they're grown ups. I need to break some of those attachments I think!
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It's a great idea to let it out here rather than to anyone IRL. You are a sweet and loyal daughter and I find it admirable that you want to protect them from criticism.
I am sorry that they are struggling right now. I remember when your father was so gravely ill ~ I am glad you still have him.
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I am greatful every day that I have my father still in my life! It's funny all the little pieces of life that we take for granted until we come so close to losing them. Every day for him is still a battle, they say 5 years after transplant is that way. I think the most exciting part is that he'll be here for our baby this summer!!!
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So where will you be when the baby is born? I have been meaning to ask you but you are a hard person to catch. :)
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We'll be in Colorado when the baby is born! (Or at least I will; I'm hoping Ryan makes it home... but that's something I *try* not to think about!)
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