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[jacqui]

I'm so tired I don't know where to begin, and I feel guilty for taking the time to write anything here. My Mom is back in the hospital again, her third time in less than two months. It's been a long, hard road. I do my best to remain positive and strong for her and for her staff and friends, but when I'm alone I feel so sad and lost, like a little

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[lefin1]

Remove Rosa.

[nebris]

..with extreme prejudice.

~M~

[lefin1]

Que unda?

[nebris]

Qua?

~M~

[rectangularcat]

headshot is pretty!

i think you're doing right by keeping rosa despite the dramah- it would probably break your mother's heart to go through that change in her life.

i send you much love, energy and healing to you and your family.

[zoochica]

What a lovely homage to your mother. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

If I may offer some advice...

You mentioned the following:

"Yesterday she signed over power of attorney to me, but out of respect for her I will not go against the wishes of her lawyer and her secretary. I will always do as I think she would have wanted me to, even if I disagree."

This concerns me. Given some of the issues you've had in the past with some of the people your mother has associated with, the first thing I would so is take a copy of your mother's will and/or any other apporopriate paperwork to another attourney to look over immediately. Unless you know and have worked with this law team extremely well, trusting these professionals could be risky. Who selcected her lawyer and secretary? (You? Rosa? Your mother?) When? (Long enough ago where the legal help may be stuck in a rut? Recently enough that they may not have your mother's true financial history?) How close is the professional relationship between your mother and her lawyer and

This concerns me, as well...

[nebris]

I wholly endorse these recommendations.

~M~

[ryokomusouka]

AGREED. I'm SO glad your mom finally gave you power of attorney.

Jacqui, honey - protect yourself and your mother's legacy. Now you can start straightening out some of the mess - you have the power. I'm not saying run roughshod over your Mom's wishes - I know that's not your way - but just make sure of these little things now.

Good on you for refusing to let Susan go. She can keep a weather eye on Rosa. It sounds like she's been talking to your mom, too. Don't back off on your decisions concerning her.

It wouldn't do any good to let Rosa go - it would turn your mom's world upside down. But make sure Rosa knows that YOU know the score, and that YOU are in charge now, not her. Don't give her any more money - she's an expert manipulator and she knows your buttons. She's finding out how far she can push you. Don't carry cash over to your mom's any more. Then you can honestly tell Rosa you don't have any.

Be strong, dear. Use the lawyers for what they're intended.

[crazycrone]

None of my business, but I so agree with these posters as well. It may seem unsavoury to consider financial practicalities at such a time, but you *need* to get a competent 'second opinion'.
Also, for what it's worth, I think the attitude you've taken on Rosa seems right for your mother at this point, and very compassionate of you. (Just don't let R get her hooks in YOU.)

Blessed Be

[nebris]

You're looking very MILFish these days, my dear. ;)

~M~

[lefin1]

from me to you