On bereavement...

[jaded_dusk]

Losing someone is a funny thing. One day they’re there as usual, the next they’re gone forever. Sometimes the loss is expected due to factors such as illness but sometimes it isn’t. I’ve experienced bereavement of both types but it was my Nan’s death in September 2012 that has affected my life the most and still does. It’s only recently I’ve

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[jstercool]

I hope you do feel better today.

When I was younger, I lost a number of family members quite close to each other, which was hard to take.

It took a very long time to get over it, the worse was with my Nan, we used to see her every Sunday, so each week there was another reminder when I'd remember we wouldn't get to go over and see her again.

I can't believe the comments you got from people at work and expecting you to only take a half day for her funeral, bunch of gits.

[jaded_dusk]

Thanks J, I do feel a bit better. Writing stuff down helps.

It's so horrible to lose someone, I think the shock of it is the worst thing. Then when you keep remembering you won't see them again. It must have been awful for you, especially losing more than one person so close together :(

Luckily I've left that workplace now. I left about 10 months after her death and I still look back and think how insensitive some of them were. One of them did later admit they shouldn't have tried to make me take half a day for the funeral. She said "looking back, that was quite harsh...perhaps I shouldn't have done that..." I was like hmm, you think?! Some people don't have any empathy though.

[jstercool]

I can understand that some people can handle loss a bit easier than others, but I can't understand how someone can expect someone else to be able to just 'get over it'.

Even if they were just thinking it's better to do something to take your mind off it... but to me that never works anyway.

[jaded_dusk]

The woman who said that was known for being quite harsh. She had a male employee in tears once after having a go at him in front of everyone and ripping his work up because she didn't like the way he'd done something. She liked me though so luckily I didn't see that side of her =/

It's hard to take your mind off things when they're all you can think about. I find that writing or music helps more than work related stuff.