Hell, I'd probably feel slightly less upset, because at least I couldn't mope about comparing myself to the new person physically, at least not to the same degree.
That's so true, you really have less to be insecure about. Why do people who usually force their disgustingly optimistic view onto others suddenly dive into pessimism about shit like this?
Masters thesis: People are stupid, everyone says so.
It's really based on the big bullshit stereotype - if you are a guy, and your girlfriend leaves you for another girl, the immediate (and totally idiotic) assumption is that you "turned her" lesbian due to being totally inadequate sexually. The reason it baffles people like us is because we can acknowledge that sexuality is fluid, and above all, relationships are not acting based solely on sex, and if they fail it isn't automatically because of the sex.
I mean, it's completely obvious if you take five minutes to think about it, but most people don't.
Funnily I've been told the opposite. That men mind less that it's a woman because it's not competition.
I wouldn't know yet. I'm still not brave enough to tell my ex (male) partner that I'm having a relationship with a woman. Most people I tell are ok but all worry more about the kids.
Me too. In fact the people I know who have been jilted for a same sex partner seem strangely relieved that it's happened that way. In fact one friend said when his wife left him for another woman that he couldn't blame her because he fancied the woman she'd gone off with too. He was still devastated but in a different way. Not angry.
Well...You already know how I feel about it. But I read it again this morning and felt compelled to say something again, well, to agree completely with something you answered to someone. Relationships: way more than just about the sex. That is the end of the story right there. A person can be led astray for so many different reasons, it doesn't matter if that person ends up with a man or a woman, what should matter is that there was obviously some sort of problem in their current relationship to begin with. Or within themselves, who knows, but yeah, hetero affair or homosexual affair, same end result.
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Hell, I'd probably feel slightly less upset, because at least I couldn't mope about comparing myself to the new person physically, at least not to the same degree.
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Masters thesis: People are stupid, everyone says so.
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I mean, it's completely obvious if you take five minutes to think about it, but most people don't.
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I mean, I understand the urge to pin your self esteem on your genitalia, really, but omg people! grow up!
Relationships: not just about the sex.
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I wouldn't know yet. I'm still not brave enough to tell my ex (male) partner that I'm having a relationship with a woman. Most people I tell are ok but all worry more about the kids.
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