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[jai_vecu]

"[N]o man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her."
-When Harry Met Sally

More substantial post to come, but what are your thoughts on the above quote?

Comments

[maiden_rising]

I have a theory on friendships between men and women (or between two men or two women who might want to have sex with each other). You can be purely friends, but you need to get the sex thing out of the way. Otherwise it becomes the elephant in the room. I.e., "I'm not having sex with this person because s/he is in a relationship/related to me/on the other side of the country." Or whatever. If you don't know why you're not having sex, you will always wonder, and it will create tension and ambiguity. Tension and ambiguity can be fun, as Savannah says, but they can also make life tiring and complicated.

[superrad_]

But what if you try to get the sex thing out of the way and it just fucks everything up?

[maiden_rising]

Good point. If it fucks everything up, my feeling is that you were never going to be lifelong friends in the first place, so you might as well fish or cut bait. Then again, I'm sure there are lots and lots of situations where my theory doesn't (or shouldn't) apply.

[thunderbunny42]

I think I'd like to go with the "give men some credit" argument. I'm a big boy, I can handle my urges. Doesn't mean I don't HAVE them all the time (I do believe that that stereotype holds true for most men, AND many many women as well, don't get me wrong), but I'm capable of making adult decisions.