Choices...

[jaiwitchy]

Ya know. Sometimes the choices we make are hard ones. Sometimes they even hurt way down. But sometimes I think that the hardest decisions to make are what make us strong. It’s not always about what we want, it is about what is best for everyone involved. When you see a greater pain down the road, when you see that there are obstacles that might

Comments

[evilbunny]

Saying you "hurt someone for their own good" is the world's biggest cop-out for not taking responsibility for your choices, in my opinion. Make a choice, make a decision, but do it because it's right, it's what you want, or it's necessary. Don't then try to excuse that action by saying "it's for your own good."

Like always this is just my opinion, your mileage may vary.

[jaiwitchy]

I agree. But I think that comes from me often letting words get in the way. I own my choices. I however try to make decisions for the greater good, and not from a purely selfish point of view. It’s like getting a tetnus shot now… it hurts yes, but without it you could end up with an infection and we would have to amputate a finger… or worse if it goes to far an entire arm…
Ummmm absorb info… “I’ll take the painful tetnus shot now…”

[evilbunny]

If only life were that simple. But in your example, you've made a decision about yourself, not for someone else's "good". Now there are choices that we all make about other people; what to share, what to hold back, what to say, what not to say, etc. All theses things are choices we make about how we interact with people, but are not choices we make for them, just choices we make for ourselves.

IMO, when we make a choice and frame it as "for your own good" or even "for the greater good", we're either taking a choice away from someone else, or trying to justify a choice we've made. I believe that when you make a choice for someone else, you are taking away their free will. (Assuming we're talking about people of sound mind who are over 18. I make choices for Toddler X all the time, but that's totally different. lol!)

Then again, it could all just be semantics and wording. *shrug*

[jaiwitchy]

I think it is words and semantics... i tend to speak in circles...

Advice for raising teens>

[teross50]

1. Try very hard to remember how you were during that time. The apple never fall far from the tree. You will se yourself inher and hope you can help her avoid some of the pain you had

Re: Advice for raising teens>

[jaiwitchy]

DUDE!!! can I just print this and post it on the fridge?

Re: Advice for raising teens>

[teross50]

Sure ya can darline.

You can also come find me when ever ya need to vent.

Hugs
T
Cause teen will drive you bat shit nuts!! It's there job. LOL

[opaljax]

With!! (giggles) I've told you before, you are a wonderful mother, and brave, and smart, and gorgeous, and sexy, and . . . Love you!!