Alexander
I've been debating how to write this post, so I'm just going to say what's been going on. On Monday night/Tuesday Morning, right around midnight, our friend Alexander De Beer from Holland killed himself by jumping out of his window. He was a wonderful soul and we'll miss him, but he was a deeply troubled individual who we are now discovering we
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There's no way anyone can get through this easily or quickly. It can take up to a year or more to feel like this awful event can be connected to a generally happy life.
You know I've treated people like Alexander. All the things you say about him, his paranoia, lack of responsiveness to others, hallucinating, lack of attention to basic hygiene, are classic symptoms of schizophrenia. It's almost impossible to get through to the person without anti-psychotic medications and a structured environment, even for a trained clinician.
But the acceptance you all showed him must have made a difference in the frightening world he started to live in. It's hard to believe that there are psychological conditions that can steal the person you know, but there are. First you lose them as a person, and then sometimes you lose their existence.
Take care of yourselves, and know that Dad and I are thinking about you, KT, and everyone affected by this.
Love,
Mom
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So very sorry to hear about Alexander. It sounds like you all are serving as a very strong and caring network for one another.
You are in our thoughts.
Love,
Aunt Joan
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Have been behind in reading your blog because Joe and Arlene were here. I am so sorry for Alexander. A truly, truly tragedy. I hope that you will recover from the trauma and the lose as soon as possible. Your response was beautiful (the kaddish, etc.) Stay well. I love you both. Grandma
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