well, you know what I said this morning, I hope things are getting better and that your actually starting to feel betetr * hugs* and your not making an asshat of yourself, I know exactly how you feel to feel like you are never around a loved one and not be able to see them, and not be able to know deep down " yes I love him and he loves me" its hard.
IT'S A PAIN IN THE ASS.
so I suppose for the most part this is resolved, and you dear, you need to know that you are not completely at fault here, you have a heart, you have emotion, you have the compacity to be hurt by even things that you might think shouldn't be a big deal. If my other asked if he could sleep with someone else it would be very upseting.
and sure making an ultimatum is a bit much, sure, but I can see your point of view hear, you were hurting, and at times when you hurt you say things that are more hurtful than you think they might be, or that you mean for say, but the great quality of life is to be fogiven. *hug again* in anycase you have my love
Thanks dear. I <3 you. and the reason he asked was really just as complicated. when we started this thing, it was sposeta be an open relationship. Then i started getting jealous and stuff, and i wouldn't be with other people. And i told him i was working on it, but then two days later he asked and shit went bannanas. So really even that was partly my fault.
well sure, and thats all fine and well, but there is open flow for misunderstanding from both parties.... and it can't always be expected that that would have kept a state of constant happiness.
Oh dear, I wish I was around when you needed me, I would have been able to try an help at least. :( I had to hear all of this from Sasha instead of straight from you. *sigh*
But I have different morals and tolerances than you, so telling you what I would do wouldn't help you much at all. Long distance relationships do really suck, and I would advise everyone in the world to never get in one.
But, didn't you two agree that until you saw each other again, you were allowed to fool around? :/ I mean... that doesn't mean I am telling you to suck it up, but don't agree to something like that if you know it will hurt you. *hugs* Or is it just because it is a girl?
80 Doods, call me at home when I get home at 11 or so, if you need to. I should be home by then.
Erm, we agreed to that. And then all these feelings started happening. I didn't think it would hurt. I had no reason to think it would. It never has in the past. And honey, just knowing you'd be there helps. thanks dearlin'. Sorry I didn't call you to wangst...thought there was enough goin on with ya.
I think you're making the right decision. And trust me I didn't want to jump to conclusions on shin's journal because of the fact that I know how you guys feel.
Love will make you do some crazy ass shit. And I'm sure you two love each other otherwise you woudln't even mention such drastic things like him immigrating. Sometimes thinking with your heart isn't always the best thing. Which is what I think was going on. I'm a pretty down to earth kind of guy but I think if you're in love as much as any of us are, it's easy to get carried away. And I know the separation anxiety can be unbearable sometimes.
Additionally, I don't think you should be worried about people saying shit about you not loving him. Thats only something you would know, and no one else. I didn't jump to conclusions because I've been there and to me you sounded like a lover in distress, which is understandable. I'm just glad that you are making the best decision in the end. Theres always a better plan, just take the time to find it.
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IT'S A PAIN IN THE ASS.
so I suppose for the most part this is resolved, and you dear, you need to know that you are not completely at fault here, you have a heart, you have emotion, you have the compacity to be hurt by even things that you might think shouldn't be a big deal. If my other asked if he could sleep with someone else it would be very upseting.
and sure making an ultimatum is a bit much, sure, but I can see your point of view hear, you were hurting, and at times when you hurt you say things that are more hurtful than you think they might be, or that you mean for say, but the great quality of life is to be fogiven. *hug again* in anycase you have my love
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But I have different morals and tolerances than you, so telling you what I would do wouldn't help you much at all. Long distance relationships do really suck, and I would advise everyone in the world to never get in one.
But, didn't you two agree that until you saw each other again, you were allowed to fool around? :/ I mean... that doesn't mean I am telling you to suck it up, but don't agree to something like that if you know it will hurt you. *hugs* Or is it just because it is a girl?
80 Doods, call me at home when I get home at 11 or so, if you need to. I should be home by then.
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Love will make you do some crazy ass shit. And I'm sure you two love each other otherwise you woudln't even mention such drastic things like him immigrating. Sometimes thinking with your heart isn't always the best thing. Which is what I think was going on. I'm a pretty down to earth kind of guy but I think if you're in love as much as any of us are, it's easy to get carried away. And I know the separation anxiety can be unbearable sometimes.
Additionally, I don't think you should be worried about people saying shit about you not loving him. Thats only something you would know, and no one else. I didn't jump to conclusions because I've been there and to me you sounded like a lover in distress, which is understandable. I'm just glad that you are making the best decision in the end. Theres always a better plan, just take the time to find it.
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