Notes on when its not you

[jaspamaster]

Ive always had problems with my birthdays and this last week reading Blindsight by Peter Watts i came across a little gem that if you apply game logic to birthdays the only way to win is not to reveal your birthday

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Emotional honesty

[jkuroda]

> Q: Do you want me at your party
> A: Only if you want to be there if you don't then please don't bother

It strikes me as similar to things I've said to others in similar situations that, boiled down, start off with "Why are you doing [whatever]? Is that a good reason?."

It even echoes how I view guilt and apology - do it because you honestly think you did something wrong, not because you think you should to fit into society or to curry favor, but because you think you did something wrong and want to be honest about it.

Kokuro

[donluisdelacosa]

It's amusing to see the both of us being accused of similar personality defects: coldness, nastiness, etc. Knowing that I also had to go through some similar spirit forging, I kept hearing my aikido teacher's voice echoing inside my head saying - "make your insides match your outsides, do as little harm as possible..." and a few other key phrases that guided me through a few really dark spots (some of which you were there to help me with). I can understand the whole hijacking the birthday thing, nothing feels more annoying to me, and so I've had to do something similar, and pair down the list to a chosen few and their trusted adherents. That said, it's almost always a pleasant affair these days. I guess the old adage is true: youth and vigor will never win out over age and treachery.

Happy belated, btw. Sorry I missed it.

[ne_penthe]

"We can only give what we have, we can only offer what is accepted we can not demand what isn't ours to demand"

Very true.
I love knowing you.
~N