Whole hearted agree with this...

[jayene]

I'm a romantic... but not in relationships. I get a white rose at ren faire, it's become a tradition. Every year I always make sure Badger knows that I still want one ahead of time because nothing is more frustrating in a relationship then really wanting something and not getting it because your "hints" weren't as obvious as you thought they were

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[cedarlock]

Well, it doesn't fit the description you gave above, but the line I'll always remember from a wedding (stolen from a country song): "I don't want the kind of love I can live with, I want the kind of love that I can't live without."

Just thought I'd throw that out there.

[jayene]

I think that the trouble comes when you tie all your emotion up in one person (and this is not a discussion of polyamory vs monogamy). I need love, but I have several sources available to me, friends, friemly, some family, cats... if I needed the love that Josh and I have then there is suddenly a lot more dependence (and depence=evil) and pressure. You can't just be you, you have to be the one source of love that I have to have... or else. It's a lot scarier phrased that way

[explosivespam]

I don't think this cynical. I don't even think it unromantic. On the contrary, I think it's the kind of romance that will keep a person married their whole life.

[explosivespam]

Everyone thinks that's what they want. But the fact is we eventually resent pretty much anything we can't live without.

[jayene]

Co-dependence is teh eval. I think my favorite analogy of being in love is this...

"Holding onto love is like holding onto a moonbeam. It can only be done with an open hand."

[explosivespam]

I liked this.

I also like something Bernie Mac once said on Leno when talking about his daughter getting married. "Love isn't nearly as important as like, because love doesn't work too well when the refrigerator is empty."

[rogue277]

I really like this article. I think that this article describes what being secure in one's relationship really entails, and the kinds of behaviors and efforts that foster good, healthy long-term relationships. I'll have to forward this link on to some people who don't understand the way my relationship and my approach to relationships works.

[lord_axiom]

Need indicates not having a choice. Want indicates choice. And I would rather make a choice than have none.