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[jayne_190]

I hate the way that my parents have a certain control over my life. It's frustrating to think that I apply for jobs based on what my parents feel or might think

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[hawn_style]

I have somewhat of an idea of how you're feeling. I have a desk job right, now, not fun, boring as hell, but it's money and it's for a great cause. I wanna look for another job, and every place I wanna apply to my mom always has to have an opinion. I wanted to be a waitress at this local diner place, which is fun, safe, and only 10 min. from our home. But it didn't get her stamp of approval. Then I wanted to work at Macy's but then she said no to that too. She wants me to get a job to suit her own purposes. Like working at Safeway, so I can bring home milk when we run out, or at Longs Drugs Store where she can get discount on house necessities. Or at Old Navy so she can buy herself clothes with discount. But I've got no interest in any of her suggestions. I can't work where I want to. and I definitely can't please the woman. And we argue constantly about the car I use to go to school in. It's not like she even pays for it. In a way she does, but it's my dad's child support money that's actually paying. Ah, well, parents

[elodiek]

Like you said, you're about to turn 26. Maybe it's time to act for yourself? Sure parents' opinion is important but it's YOUR life, not theirs. You have to find a way to do the things that are important to you without being dependent on what your parents will say. I know it's tricky but they'll have to understand at one point or another, right? Do you imagine yourself, 10 years from now, still in the same situation? You have to make things clear now, they can't treat you like a baby all your life. Listen to what they say but make your own choices. *hugs*

[chloe_sarai]

Your parents can't live your life for you. How will you ever grow as a person if they continue to dictate what, who, and how you are? You have to set the bar and do what you want to do. You can never learn if you're not allowed to experience.

I say go with what's best for you and will make you happiest. Not what will make your parents happiest.

[gomez23]

I think it has a lot to do with you living at home. I live at home and my mom sounds just like your parents. Not so much about my job but when I go out at night. They ask a bunch of questions and sometimes say to me, that I shouldn't go. I don't listen when they say that because I'm a grown up but I think they feel the need to say something because I still live with them.

Anyways, do what you feel is right. Parents will always have an opinion about what their kids do.

[jayne_190]

I think so too; my parents do the same thing when I tell them I am going out somewhere and I can understand their concern. As long as I live with them, they will always have an opinion. But why they are uncomfortable for me driving into the city, I really don't know why.

I just applied for a job at Emily Carr in Vancouver. So if I get an interview with them, I can think of at least one way in which I can get there.

I think part of it is also because I would have to use my parents' vehicles in order to get to these interviews.