Arg

[jeanvieve]

I've been burdened with information that I didn't want, which makes me think much less of someone in so many ways. One of those times when every aspect of a confession makes one bristle with censure. So much more than "What were you thinking", far into the "Why are you wasting your money to get there when you're broke and borrowing" and then deeply

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[snobahr]

I tend not to drink in public places, generally because I'm usually the Designated Driver. When I do drink, it's either at my home, or the home of friends who I trust. We try not to be stupid, however silly we might get while intoxicated.

[answers_within]

I am SO GLAD I am not the only one who believes this and will say it publicly. I mean, I know in a broader sense that I'm not the only one, but I'm still appalled and really depressed by the number of people who think that drunkenness is the ultimate "out" for anything they do. Like you, I don't really accept any excuses for unacceptable behavior except genuine medical ones, and those are vanishingly rare

[im_geva]

I'm sorry for you, Jeanie.

I hate learning things about my friends I didn't ever want to know. Especially when it causes the loss of respect.

[jeanvieve]

Yeah. But hopefully it will lead to better things between the two parties involved. Things like re-establishing rules and boundaries.

Cause as fate would have it, the other interested party is willing to forgive things I'd dump someone for. And you can't tell someone else what to feel or do.

I'm definitely pulling out of this one. It's just going to make it harder to do things for the offender in the future on their own behalf if asked.