I signed up for OKC last week. I've talked to some nice people but the conversation kinda died and doesn't seem worth resurrecting on my end. Idk. I was in a relationship for almost five years and I haven't been single since I was nineteen so I am so, so lost.
I'm basically the same. I was with Jack for 5 years, then there was literally a month between that break up and Jimmy. So I've basically not been single for over 6 years. IT SUCKSSSS. I never really dated anyway, so I'm pretty freaked out. Plus, I'm not really ready to date again. I don't know when I will be, but I don't know I don't mind talking to someone, cuz that's always fine. But ughhh dating = scary.
Seriously. My only relationships have been hella long term (shortest is just over a year, ha ha ha ha) and I'm like...wat do? How date?
As for creepers, only one guy that I had to block! (The phrase 'finally, another atheist!' is probably not going to get you in my pants since ugh) I've had a few "hey sexy" or some iteration on that theme, and one guy that is a very high match apparently but he wears dragon t-shirts and didn't use the right "your" in the message he sent me. Sigh.
EXACTLY THE SAME HERE. 5 years and 11 months. Dating is scary. Can I just be in love again? I'm good at that. I'm good at being a committed girlfriend. I don't know how to do all this getting to know people bullshit.
UGH. It's sucks when a good match and profile pops up and then you notice something and it's like NOPE NOPE NOPE. I'm someone talking to one guy. Profile is funny, he seems super nice. 1. He's divorced apparently. 2. He looks like an uglier Samwell Tarly. Which I suppose I wouldn't mind a Sam, but this guy...just no.... nope, I can't. The typos are the worst part. You can have a great profile but if you can't spell, sorry, I'm out. *sigh*
So... am I reading between the lines right: You're basically hoping to replace your boyfriend with some one awfully similar who just has a different name?
Let me know before I comment any more along those lines...
I'd surely like to find someone similar to him, since he was, generally, pretty great. But I have a weird tendency to like guys all with J names, and the name James seems to keep popping up. So I am hoping to avoid that like the plague. IDK, I'm weird. I hope that answers the question...
I can't blame you for digging J names, but I'm biased as I have a J name.
Just figured I'd mention that one thing I had to do with an ex I was super torn up about, was realize I was still in love with the person she WAS, and that person didn't exist anymore as she'd changed drastically. Not sure if that will help you, but that realization really helped me get over an ex I was smitten with once upon a time.
Hahaha, yup. Literally every guy friend I have, yourself included, has a J name. Every guy I've ever dated or had serious interest in has had a J or an A name. (Service guy just now came into work, insanely cute, all smilin at me, totally my type, his name is Jake. Fuuuuuck) Ever since I started crushing on boys in elementary school. It's weird and that tradition needs to stop. It's creepin me out.
That's a very good point. I'm still in love with the idea of a life with him. Not the reality that he doesn't want that life. Which sucks. He would have been perfect for me, if I didn't want a future that involves a house, and marriage, and kids, and someone who is willing to put me first. But I'm not willing to give up those things to just kinda cruise along life, enjoying most of the time with him, but not having a future on the horizon.
Is there a reason that nothing should happen between you two? Does he have a gf or a bf?
I have remade my tinder but honestly I don't see myself meeting anyone. I do have the feeling that shane is distancing himself from me and that really hurts and really sucks, but if I am going to bother getting out there again and sleeping with someone, I'll do it for $$. Because my heart is not in it as far as meeting anyone.
How is POF? I made a profile maybe 6 years ago and it was seriously for NASCAR watching trailer trash and 50 year old men. I deleted my profile and they won't stop emailing me. I have gone back once or twice to make sure that it's deleted or at the least tried to block them, but I can't stop the emails. UGH.
Marco is married. There was awhile when we were going to Disneyland just the two of us where it became very apparent that he was not in the happiest of marriages. We pushed some boundaries of what would probably considered a bit past platonic should our SOS been present. I'm really attracted to him, and sometimes I think vice versa. So uh yah, bad idea
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Get any creeper messages yet?
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As for creepers, only one guy that I had to block! (The phrase 'finally, another atheist!' is probably not going to get you in my pants since ugh) I've had a few "hey sexy" or some iteration on that theme, and one guy that is a very high match apparently but he wears dragon t-shirts and didn't use the right "your" in the message he sent me. Sigh.
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UGH. It's sucks when a good match and profile pops up and then you notice something and it's like NOPE NOPE NOPE. I'm someone talking to one guy. Profile is funny, he seems super nice. 1. He's divorced apparently. 2. He looks like an uglier Samwell Tarly. Which I suppose I wouldn't mind a Sam, but this guy...just no.... nope, I can't.
The typos are the worst part. You can have a great profile but if you can't spell, sorry, I'm out.
*sigh*
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Let me know before I comment any more along those lines...
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Just figured I'd mention that one thing I had to do with an ex I was super torn up about, was realize I was still in love with the person she WAS, and that person didn't exist anymore as she'd changed drastically. Not sure if that will help you, but that realization really helped me get over an ex I was smitten with once upon a time.
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Ever since I started crushing on boys in elementary school.
It's weird and that tradition needs to stop. It's creepin me out.
That's a very good point. I'm still in love with the idea of a life with him. Not the reality that he doesn't want that life. Which sucks. He would have been perfect for me, if I didn't want a future that involves a house, and marriage, and kids, and someone who is willing to put me first. But I'm not willing to give up those things to just kinda cruise along life, enjoying most of the time with him, but not having a future on the horizon.
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I have remade my tinder but honestly I don't see myself meeting anyone. I do have the feeling that shane is distancing himself from me and that really hurts and really sucks, but if I am going to bother getting out there again and sleeping with someone, I'll do it for $$. Because my heart is not in it as far as meeting anyone.
How is POF? I made a profile maybe 6 years ago and it was seriously for NASCAR watching trailer trash and 50 year old men. I deleted my profile and they won't stop emailing me. I have gone back once or twice to make sure that it's deleted or at the least tried to block them, but I can't stop the emails. UGH.
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