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Where in caring about somebody is there a line between being concerned and being annoying? When your with somebody I believe it is in your best interest to want to take care of that person and look out for them. Somehow ive gotten that mixed up and if I speak up about one of my concerns, it causes a huge issue and I look like an asshole for looking out for that person. Sure ive brought it up before, and yes, im a little inquisitive, but why does that have to bring up feelings of confusion, and anger. It involves alcohol. A person under the influence of a good amount of alcohol can often feel completely under control which is not usually the case. Sure, im a worrying type of person, and things happen to people when they are completely sober so its not to go without saying that i could easily be worried all the time. I got over the jealoucy thing which was hard enough but there are so many things that can go wrong if you are out somewhere drunk and your friends are drunk at who knows where... a frathouse or somebodys dorm or even a club or something, you just dont know whats going to happen...so why is that, under these conditions, not just cause for worrying? There is nothing i could do if something happened or whatever..id just have to deal with it. Sure, I may be a hypocrite for worrying about something like this but there is a lot less concern for a guy (especially me) to be ON campus (usually just in my room) than a small girl in a group of drinking friends that probably doesnt stay together on occasion. Should I care? Why is it bad for me to know whats going on and to ask what kind of things happened at the party and who she was hanging out with that night if im just asking curiously? I think if something this good is going to last from so far, being concerned and staying in touch about these sort of things are important. Even if I am overdoing it a little...isnt it better that being uninterested? Why not tell me everything is going to be ok and put my mind at ease instead of saying that i should let it go and be quiet? It takes almost nothing to make me feel better and a lot less to make me feel a hundred times worse. its just how i work sometimes and its dumb---
i need a lot of input on this guys
somebody clear some things up for me?