I need to stop this paranoia

[jeffswhisper]

I know I've mentioned this before, but Eddy mentioned his ex again.  i should stop with this paranoia.  It's not good.  But it puts a question into my head of what we are?  I know, I know, I should be patient and see how it goes.  But i hate the idea that this would fizzle into nothing.  I really like this guy.  This is what he said (he was feeling

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[domesticatedsag]

Don't worry sweetie, I think I would be more paranoid if he were hiding the fact that he saw his ex. that would definitely signal that he still has feelings for her and you don't need him sneaking about. I have remained friends with many of my old boyfriends, but I never forget the reasons we broke up in the first place. :) xoxo

[jeffswhisper]

Thank you. You're right. I should really just think of it in that way :) I guess I'm just really worried that this will turn out like the last person I was with/liked. He really hurt me and, even though this thing with eddy seems to be going a lot better, I just don't want that again. You know, him just using me etc.

[domesticatedsag]

"I just don't want that again. You know, him just using me etc."

totally understandable. It's a catch 22, if we don't try to trust them, we could loose out on something really good, but then there's alway the chance of getting hurt. If he's a good guy, and he sounds like he is, your instincts will tell you when something is really wrong :)
I am an overthinker too, it sucks sometimes. xoxo