It's really not any business of mine, but...

[jekkisa]

You can still get hurt in an "open relationship." Just because it's open doesn't mean you're free to make decisions like they have no consequences. The "open" status is not a ticket for immunity of any kind. Yes, it takes individuals in touch with their own uncompromised needs to function healthily, but the "uncompromising" part of the needs is not

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[method_sian]

is this in reference to a situation i'm aware of?

[jekkisa]

Like I said, I have no idea, I'm working with a hunch of inspiration, & the notion that people can be predictable.

[_overthesea]

Open relationships, in my opinion, require twice the amount of communication, twice the amount of trust, and twice the amount of responsibility.

Instead of just one on one, open relationships open the negotiation of wants and needs to a range of other people who are coming in to the situation with various levels of understanding and experience. Especially when you throw in things like being fluid-bonded with specific partners, having a primary, etc it can makes things tricky unless everyone is on the same page and constantly communicating that they are on the same page.

It sucks that open relationships are often interpreted as easy or free of responsibility. The reality is that you're expanding your responsibility to include more people!

And for the record, unless you're trying to explain why you threw up all over someone's shoes, "But I was drunk" is never, ever an excuse.

[_overthesea]

Also, holy fuck it's your birthday! Yay!

[jekkisa]

AND THANKSSSSSSSSSS

[jekkisa]

YES. YES, yes, yes.

Loves your opinion, Tobi. Loves it. Thank you for sharing.