Love Is

[jemauvais]

Was talking to a friend on MSN tonight and he made a quip about the essence of love which I have not realised before.  He simply said:

"Love is giving someone the power to hurt you."
And it is rather true, if you think about it.

Comments

[frimframsauce]

How about "she's just not that into you anymore? "

Passion is totally overrated, esp by all the tv/movies popular these days. Passion as in the strong emotion/desire, like having a ring around our nose leading us mindlessly where It wants to go, without real inner contemplation and self-understanding about where this desire came from and how it is affecting us. Hence passion is also changing and unpredictable, like the weather. Being enslaved by one's passion is just gonna promise you lots of heartbreaks. Because the real stuff, i e long term relationship/ life time partnerships take hard work. Ask anyone who's been married over over 10 years, 20 year etc.

Of course, if you're just looking to date, or short term serial monogamy, then of course it will suffice.

Read the NYT article yet? it's short la.

[frimframsauce]

I hope you see the distinction between the Passion we've talked about and being passionate about something - eg, making a relationship work, building trust etc. Former is reactive, latter (examples) are proactive. I'm not saying I am right or I hold the truth, I'm just saying if you can see how my distinctions are made, then it pretty much leaves no confusion/pain but have lots of workability and ease. And you know what to look for in a girl for next time ;)