Response to Weddings at Anni Party...
A couple of people have been arguing the preceived sanctity of marriage recently where our community is concerned. I have to respond, though I felt the forum for planning these events at Anni Party wasn't the place to do it.
I understand where you're coming from, but I still feel I must interject, here. You know Micah and I are having our wedding in three and a half months, too, and we take our marriage very seriously, as well.
But, the fact of the matter is that the "wedding" at this event, unless you're planning for a legal license to be in place at the time, isn't your final ceremony. No one is questioning the seriousness of your relationship, or your concept of marriage. The weekend will be so packed with events, however, and with over a hundred people attending, that it's going to be difficult to get any "private time" away from the main events at all.
If you want such a "select few" people in attendance for this "wedding", perhaps you should consider arranging for them to attend your legal wedding in June, to share that special event with you. I understand wanting to have a Tower enactment for those friends who can't make it to the wedding in June, but I don't think it's reasonable to expect a completely private ceremony with Mother and your select few when the entire weekend is booked chock full of events for everyone.
Perhaps I'm wrong. I'm just afraid that if you insist on a private ceremony, that it may end up being at 3AM when all other events have finished for the day, and the parties break up into their individual rooms.
Just something to consider.
As for the light hearted, not so serious "weddings" at our events, they've gone on forever, and they will go on until no one else wants to have them. We're a community, and we enjoy spending time with each other. We claim Sisters, Brothers, near siblings (yes, I know it was until recently), we ally and sort ourseves into Ajahs and Companies. No, we're not a roleplaying site, but we do hold bonds that the world at large doesn't recognize.
No one is questioning your commitment by making light of their own relationships. Don't feel like your toes are being squashed because some people have had fun in the past; certainly don't rain on their parades because you are viewing this so seriously. They aren't making fun of the institute of marriage. No one is questioning your committment to your own marriage. It's a party. It's for having fun. If you want to celebrate your union with the Tower, then that's wonderful; we are all thrilled for you. But please don't make the rest of us feel invasive or unwanted as you share your happiness with your select few. It's almost as bad as saying, "Hey, we know you're here, but we'd rather you weren't."
Consider the time constraints of the people you *are* involving, and everything else they have to do and perform for the weekend. Don't forget that they need sleep, too.
This is not meant to start a flame war. It's meant to say, "Lighten up, for goodness' sake."
I understand where you're coming from, but I still feel I must interject, here. You know Micah and I are having our wedding in three and a half months, too, and we take our marriage very seriously, as well.
But, the fact of the matter is that the "wedding" at this event, unless you're planning for a legal license to be in place at the time, isn't your final ceremony. No one is questioning the seriousness of your relationship, or your concept of marriage. The weekend will be so packed with events, however, and with over a hundred people attending, that it's going to be difficult to get any "private time" away from the main events at all.
If you want such a "select few" people in attendance for this "wedding", perhaps you should consider arranging for them to attend your legal wedding in June, to share that special event with you. I understand wanting to have a Tower enactment for those friends who can't make it to the wedding in June, but I don't think it's reasonable to expect a completely private ceremony with Mother and your select few when the entire weekend is booked chock full of events for everyone.
Perhaps I'm wrong. I'm just afraid that if you insist on a private ceremony, that it may end up being at 3AM when all other events have finished for the day, and the parties break up into their individual rooms.
Just something to consider.
As for the light hearted, not so serious "weddings" at our events, they've gone on forever, and they will go on until no one else wants to have them. We're a community, and we enjoy spending time with each other. We claim Sisters, Brothers, near siblings (yes, I know it was until recently), we ally and sort ourseves into Ajahs and Companies. No, we're not a roleplaying site, but we do hold bonds that the world at large doesn't recognize.
No one is questioning your commitment by making light of their own relationships. Don't feel like your toes are being squashed because some people have had fun in the past; certainly don't rain on their parades because you are viewing this so seriously. They aren't making fun of the institute of marriage. No one is questioning your committment to your own marriage. It's a party. It's for having fun. If you want to celebrate your union with the Tower, then that's wonderful; we are all thrilled for you. But please don't make the rest of us feel invasive or unwanted as you share your happiness with your select few. It's almost as bad as saying, "Hey, we know you're here, but we'd rather you weren't."
Consider the time constraints of the people you *are* involving, and everything else they have to do and perform for the weekend. Don't forget that they need sleep, too.
This is not meant to start a flame war. It's meant to say, "Lighten up, for goodness' sake."