Having second thoughts.

[jenn_sky]

I've been asked on a number of occasions what my viewpoint is on nudity in movies. The main cause for the interest in this particular topic is one of my scenes in My Little Eye. My character, Charlie, has sex with a man she's just met after 6 months abstinence, and the whole thing is caught on camera. There's no frills, and it's fairly up front and

Comments

[misswainwright]

What a beautifully thoughtful and personal entry. I admire you for being brave enough to share such personal things and tackle a topic even if it may be an uncomfortable one. At the end of it, I ended up having two thoughts

[jenn_sky]

Thank you, Martha. I wasn't quite sure if I would make sense as it always seems that my fingers get away with me and I end up with a bunch of nonsensical rubbish that only I could understand.

Honestly, I had that point of view for the longest time, but I think you would understand when I say it's difficult to make somebody be comfortable about something they're clearly not. I would like for people to be comfortable with it, but asking my husband to look at a sex scene with another man and not mind is asking too much. I'm only thankful he understands it was nothing but acting and doesn't hold it against me

[alex_band]

I didn't know I was being so obvious... I just don't want to end up saying anything I will regret saying in the end. It's weird, because I have absolutely no problem with nudity in films, but seeing you in that scene, even knowing that it's just acting and telling myself that over and over again, makes me feel uncomfortable. Maybe it's jealousy... I don't know. But seeing another man touching my wife (or girlfriend, back then), even if it's just for a movie and it's all in the script, feels strange

[jenn_sky]

Alex, you forget that the only other person who knows you better than I do is your mother. I can see when something is bothering you, and it seems that nothing can quite get to you as much as that one scene

[alex_band]

You're right... I should have known. I just thought I was being sneaky instead of staying in the room and pulling the longest face in the world. That would have been just a little bit more obvious... maybe

[jenn_sky]

Next time I will literally punch you in the stomach to distract you if neccessary. You know I love you, and I'm thankful to have you with me every day. It's just a little bump that we've encountered and it means nothing in the end because I know we both know how much we mean to one another.

Yes, I love you.

[msfaithhill]

This is a great post. I really enjoyed reading it.

Much of what you said, especially about your own body image, not many people are willing to do. I know I have faults, and that I am not perfect, but my husband loves me the way I am, which is good enough for me.

As for nudity in movies...man, it was hard enough for me to have my orgasm scene in Stepford. I've always maintained that I would not do nudity, in fact I was offered a part in Cold Mountain but turned it down for that reason.

I do also believe that a woman has the right to choose, and to change her mind.

[jenn_sky]

Thank you. I hope it wasn't as tedious as I thought it would be. I tend to just let my fingers do the talking and before I know it, I've got a novel on my hands.

I know I have faults, and that I am not perfect, but my husband loves me the way I am, which is good enough for me. That, Faith, is the most well said thing I've heard in a long time. Nobody can make a woman feel more beautiful than her lover.

You know, I haven't seen that, but I'd like to. And you're right, it can be a pressure to perform in such intimate circumstances, especially if you're not comfortable with it. At least you know your boundaries and are sticking by them when you say you will not do nudity. I admire and respect your decision.

And thank you for the lovely comment.