Eh, don't waste thought on it. I used to spin myself up a lot about being cute rather than sexy and it's all rather subjective. Eye, beholder, all that jazz. It's about as useful as worrying about why/if someone does/does not like a piece or art (or dance) that you have produced. Subjective!
Having said that, I think you are both terribly cute and terribly sexy.
Aw thanks... I would tend to agree with your first statement, however, it was made by someone I have a sexual relationship with, so he thinks I am not sexy, then that's not so good...
Wow, that phone course sounds really cool! I think you'll really benefit from it.
Since you're in a self-actualizing mood, here's some advice from cognitive therapy (CBT). CBT focuses on facts, rather than interpretations. The fact here is that he said that you're the cutest thing he's seen, but more cute than sexy. That's the only fact here. Everything else is interpretation. Maybe he meant something different than you think he did? Instead of basing your emotions on your interpretation, which may be false, you could get more facts, and ask him what he meant by that. One idea I thought of is that your cuteness is a 10 and your sexiness is a 9. In that case, I would definitely consider that a compliment, although poorly communicated.
I've often tried complimenting people and just wording it totally wrong, having it come out as a slap-in-the-face insult. Then I'd try to explain myself, and make it worse. I usually did best with people who would ask questions first and shoot second.
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Very much looking forward to your future posts on this topic!
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Having said that, I think you are both terribly cute and terribly sexy.
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Since you're in a self-actualizing mood, here's some advice from cognitive therapy (CBT). CBT focuses on facts, rather than interpretations. The fact here is that he said that you're the cutest thing he's seen, but more cute than sexy. That's the only fact here. Everything else is interpretation. Maybe he meant something different than you think he did? Instead of basing your emotions on your interpretation, which may be false, you could get more facts, and ask him what he meant by that. One idea I thought of is that your cuteness is a 10 and your sexiness is a 9. In that case, I would definitely consider that a compliment, although poorly communicated.
I've often tried complimenting people and just wording it totally wrong, having it come out as a slap-in-the-face insult. Then I'd try to explain myself, and make it worse. I usually did best with people who would ask questions first and shoot second.
But I'm better now. :)
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*that another person would be me*
Hope you are well and having a great day. :) *HUGS*
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