Well right now I know marriage is a fad. Looking at all the wedding blogs and cute make-shift invites, it's like the next cupcake craze.
Personally I don't get marriage. Why must you be legally connected to show someone that you love them? There's common-law marriage, where you're basically married sans stress and drama over cream or champagne napkins. I don't know. :)
Hahaha, marriage is the new cupcake craze? There was a cupcake craze? I swear I miss everything.
I think I'm still undecided on the marriage thing. I have to admit the idea of a dress and some jewellery sounds a smidgeon appealing, but that's just my shallowness coming to the fore! In regards to name changing, ownership, etc that receives a massive thumbs down from me.
It's not a legal contract to show someone that you love them. That's not the intention of a legalized marriage, at least not under the law. But there's a difference between being married and having a wedding celebration. My mom got married and she had a tiny reception (as in only her mom, her oldest brother and my dads parents) she didn't even wear a white dress. I agree though that some people go way to crazy over it. It's like chill out, it's only one day.
Well, I grew up in an Asian family… and we just love celebrations/party. Wedding counts as a celebration. Our culture thinks that having kids outside marriage is taboo, ergo marriage so they can have hundreds of kids…Me being the weird one in the family, still could not get my head around the idea of marriage. Don't know why but I guess commitment kind of scares me.
Again, I was raised as a catholic and my parents aren't too keen about divorce or remarriage unless it's a bad relationship, then they're okay with it.
I'm sort of in the middle. Not being too asian or too catholic.
Celebrations are awesome, I think that's where the appeal lies for me (plus the dress and rings...). I can definitely see that cultural and religious factors feed into the marriage debate as well. It's a complicated thing!
Alex seems like the type to shrug a lot. And raise an eyebrow.
I actually never noticed that Talia and Jack aren't married. I don't think marriage is such a big deal, actually. I'd be pretty embarrassed getting married in front of a whole bunch of people. I think I'd just stick with being engaged or in a relationship for a very, very long time. :P
Ooooooh, I'm definitely looking forward to the next chapter! :)
I'm with you, when I originally wrote SMtL, I didn't really think about whether they were married or not, but then heaps of people asked me about it. I love the idea that you would go for the engaged thing, but not the actual marriage. That's really interesting.
Thanks for looking forward to the next chapter. I'm afraid it might be a little bit longer in coming than expected as I left my USB at work (in that 'yay, it's Friday' mad rush to leave!).
I'm excited to read the next chapter which details, in-depth, Alex's shrugging ordeal. :-) And no, you are not the only one to make faces to figure out a character's motions (facial or otherwise).
Oh, and about the marriage thing...I'm married, but really only because my husband and I wanted the tax breaks - and to shut everyone up really. I swear, if you're a girl, this is how the conversation of life goes: "So, do you have a boyfriend, yet?" "So, when are you getting engaged?" "So, when are you getting married?" "So, any kids yet?"
And lord help you if you get divorced...it will all start over, I'm sure of it. :-)
Re: Excitedjess_star123October 9 2009, 21:39:38 UTC
Haha, now I feel like I should highlight whenever Alex shrugs, like 'see, he does it here and here'. Oh and hurrah for not being the only one making strange gestures when writing!
Wow, I seem to have luckily avoided the 'conversation of life'. There are definitely practical considerations of marriage too, I suppose. Like my parents got married in part because they were teachers who were moving to the other side of the world and wanted to ensure they were posted together.
It's all very interesting! Cheers for your thoughts.
I think its the new generation thing...you really don't need to get married now, because really if your legal rights are the same, you can do everything like a married couple without having to pay for the wedding/marriage certificate! I don't believe 'living in sin' has the same stigma anymore - it's all about trying before buying right! You can make a life commitment with someone without having to pay for the piece of paper..
BTW i'm so excited about the next chapter coming out, and no i don't think you're weird for acting out expressions/gestures for your characters, i often get some attitude going if i'm planning out a difficult conversation or what not haha. As for what Alex could do instead of shrugging...its actually really difficult to think of anything else that you would do in a shrugging situation...maybe the upside down smile thing that usually accompany shrugging..if that makes sense! Good luck with that anyways!!
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Personally I don't get marriage. Why must you be legally connected to show someone that you love them? There's common-law marriage, where you're basically married sans stress and drama over cream or champagne napkins. I don't know. :)
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I think I'm still undecided on the marriage thing. I have to admit the idea of a dress and some jewellery sounds a smidgeon appealing, but that's just my shallowness coming to the fore! In regards to name changing, ownership, etc that receives a massive thumbs down from me.
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Again, I was raised as a catholic and my parents aren't too keen about divorce or remarriage unless it's a bad relationship, then they're okay with it.
I'm sort of in the middle. Not being too asian or too catholic.
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I actually never noticed that Talia and Jack aren't married. I don't think marriage is such a big deal, actually. I'd be pretty embarrassed getting married in front of a whole bunch of people. I think I'd just stick with being engaged or in a relationship for a very, very long time. :P
Ooooooh, I'm definitely looking forward to the next chapter! :)
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I'm with you, when I originally wrote SMtL, I didn't really think about whether they were married or not, but then heaps of people asked me about it. I love the idea that you would go for the engaged thing, but not the actual marriage. That's really interesting.
Thanks for looking forward to the next chapter. I'm afraid it might be a little bit longer in coming than expected as I left my USB at work (in that 'yay, it's Friday' mad rush to leave!).
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Oh, and about the marriage thing...I'm married, but really only because my husband and I wanted the tax breaks - and to shut everyone up really. I swear, if you're a girl, this is how the conversation of life goes:
"So, do you have a boyfriend, yet?"
"So, when are you getting engaged?"
"So, when are you getting married?"
"So, any kids yet?"
And lord help you if you get divorced...it will all start over, I'm sure of it. :-)
Lindsay
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Wow, I seem to have luckily avoided the 'conversation of life'. There are definitely practical considerations of marriage too, I suppose. Like my parents got married in part because they were teachers who were moving to the other side of the world and wanted to ensure they were posted together.
It's all very interesting! Cheers for your thoughts.
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BTW i'm so excited about the next chapter coming out, and no i don't think you're weird for acting out expressions/gestures for your characters, i often get some attitude going if i'm planning out a difficult conversation or what not haha. As for what Alex could do instead of shrugging...its actually really difficult to think of anything else that you would do in a shrugging situation...maybe the upside down smile thing that usually accompany shrugging..if that makes sense! Good luck with that anyways!!
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