Musings on open relationships/polyamory/non-monogamy/whatever

[jessica_m1978]

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Me thinking about shit does not equate to me applying said things to any particular person/people/animal/vegetable/mineral.That being said, having recently been introduced to open relationships, it's given me a lot of stuff to think about. As I was walking into work this morning, I was sort of thinking about the distinction between

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[iphisol]

Yeah! I vote for cultural not hardwired. I think it's a spectrum, not like a 1-10 platonic-lover scale. And I think it's super complicated. Near as I can figure, non-monogamous relationships only differ in their intentionality- for a relationship that's very very not-monogs, you've got to be super sharey and, like, open and honest, which is terrifying. And when we're taught 'find your prince and everything will be perfect,' having a relationship that requires constant upkeep can seem counterintuitive.

But really, relationships that you're not constantly working on seem, to me, to be the ones that are kind of doomed.

So yeah. The ideas you're talking about are super important and legit and smart!