Comments | jessikanesis: Poll Question:

jessikanesis

Poll Question:

Nov 21, 2009 17:54

How long is long enough to know someone on the internet before meeting them for coffee ( Read more... )

Comments 7

tattooofhername November 21 2009, 23:14:40 UTC

I'd go with A in most circumstances. I mean, save your chat logs, meet somewhere public, let people know where you're going and y'know, use your common sense and you'll be fine. If you're gonna wind up on a milk carton or whatever, it's gonna be a family member or someone close to you that'll do it.

sessobunny November 21 2009, 23:30:24 UTC

And.. I'd say there is no particular length of time, a freak is going to be a freak whether you've known them 10 minutes or 10 months ( ... )

onthefloor November 21 2009, 23:48:46 UTC

Wise advice! :D

innocentwater November 25 2009, 05:03:59 UTC

Before you leave to go on date.. call or text someone
When you go to leave to go home call or text the person again
Giving a time of when you should be calling is nice too, that way they know when to call the cops if need be!

This! This is a smart move. Just don't forget by accident.

I'mma say C. While some freaks are always freaks, they are better revealed over time. I'd rather give a person a chance to slip up and drop hints about something, than to assume that I'll just FIND OUT when I see them.

Just play it safe and I think you'll be okay.

Oh, had a question, too! Is Red Cross still hiring in Boston? I have a friend who is still looking for a job (yes, that one). If you're okay with it, I'd love to be able to pass info on to him.

syrinx November 23 2009, 00:06:00 UTC

Haha, well, I married Amir, and I met him online. I'd say wait 2 weeks, then you know if you'll have stuff to talk about.

I say ditto to all of sessobunny's advice, though!

shadowedge613 November 23 2009, 05:03:32 UTC

I'm in the 1-2 weeks camp. I think that tends to weed out the unfortunate ones, with whom you are just not going to click. Other than that... meeting for coffee is pretty low key, and while i agree with sessobunny on one hand, I think letting someone know where you are going, and when you will be back is a pretty good working plan.

rjlovie November 24 2009, 01:06:55 UTC

I'm in the trust-your-instincts camp. I don't think the basic processes change all THAT much where the Internet is concerned, and I think your instincts are still just as sharp. So if you think the time is right, then it is.

Your instinct, clearly, is to give the guy a shot, but to do so in a careful, controlled way. Which is about right as far as I see it. I say don't be any more confined by arbitrary time concerns than you would be normally.