life out of balance

[jessiqua]

My dear friend Jeffree who I met while living in Olympia years ago has continued to send me the most thoughtful emails and "snail mail" over the years, even while I have not been able to reciprocate. He's an artist, a painter. He donated some pieces to sell for Sybil's benefit and he even attended the event. His energy is that of someone so similar

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[sphinx_99]

When I was first seeing my rheumy, it was similar, most esp negative blood work. He didn't call it RA right away and gave me Prednisone for a short while, actually as sort of a diagnostic purpose. Basically, if the prednisone helps, it points to RA or a similar type of arthritis which is treated pretty much the same way. And boy is it nice if it *does* help! My following appointment was when he diagnosed me and we started to discuss other meds, and getting off the prednisone because using it long term isn't great. His thinking is start to treat the RA early, before it gets severe, to prevent as much damage to the joints as possible. Of course things didn't work out so nicely for me, but I guess that just goes to show that not everyone responds well to certain meds.

[ohmavie]

You're very lucky to have a friend like him who thinks of you like that to be so thoughtful. It's a rare thing. He must care a lot about you! You really should try to reciprocate a bit. It prob hurts him that he puts in such effort when you don't? I have a few friends who I feel very strongly about and care for...and with them I go out of my way to do such things like your friend does for you. Even though it makes me happy to hopefully surprise them or make them feel good...sometimes I feel sad that it's so one-sided. You know? Anyway, sorry, don't mean to judge..but you should send him something! It would prob make him really happy!

[ellison]

Maybe you're projecting? It sounds more to me like he's the type of friend who likes to send stuff out to his friends, regardless of whether he gets something in return or not. I doubt he feels hurt at all - how would you even gather that from this post? Giving from the heart is not about expecting anything in return. If you feel that way about your friends, maybe stop giving so much, if you're only building up resentment. That is not healthy. Plus, Jess is wonderful and kind and I'm sure would love to give more of herself to all of her friends, but, guess what - she is incredibly busy, in case that was somehow inexplicably missed by you.

[ohmavie]

I didn't mean it like that at all.

[ellison]

Hi Jess! Wow, sounds like you still have a lot on your plate. I really hope that the docs can really get to the bottom of your physical issues, and soon. That must be so frustrating! I hope you feel better soon!! I also hope your schedule improves, because that's always a good thing

P.S.

[ellison]

My friend said she heard something about these RA type feelings possibly being linked to kidneys or adrenal glands. I don't know if this has any pertinence to your situation, but if you haven't already, maybe considering getting those areas checked? Just thought I'd pass that on.