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moldypotatochip in jetjapan

dating co-workers? is it against the rules?

Mar 02, 2010 17:15

I'm not really sure how it happened, but I will be having dinner with a single co-worker of the opposite sex on Friday. He is a teacher at one of my schools. I was thinking to myself at first that he just wanted to hang out with me as a friend, but as the day approaches, it is becoming apparent to me that it is probably a date. Just the two of ( Read more... )

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konoichi March 2 2010, 12:11:24 UTC

Have fun! It's nobody's business but yours, really.

reppu March 2 2010, 16:55:41 UTC

I've had teachers date and marry, but it was all kept under wraps. I think it's just another one of those Japanese things, that if they don't "see" it, then it didn't happen. But I wouldn't worry about it, I've seen too many teacher pair off to think it's taboo. Oh, but I have had some teachers transferred out of the school after they were married (as in the wife stays and the husband gets a new school during the spring shuffle). I've only seen this once, but I think they knew it was going to happen, hence why they got married. Something about limitations on how far away your partner could be transferred or something.

But I don't think you're considering marriage from a first date, so I say go for it. If your school is a rather strict place, keep it under wraps, but I know I was certainly pushed toward more than one male co-worker by my JTEs.

everanangel604 March 3 2010, 00:32:24 UTC

I don't think there's any problem. As my friends and I have been saying lately, if your co-workers know you're single, they may attempt some matchmaking.

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moldypotatochip March 3 2010, 07:36:28 UTC

It seems rather like it is a date, but I don't really care one way or the other about romantic implications... I mean that I think he's a pretty awesome person I could see myself being friends with and if he likes me I guess it would change things. I'm definitely not planning on asking him anything remotely about relationships unless he brings it up first!

ganbattegaijin March 7 2010, 23:53:38 UTC

I second everything the others have said. And just to toss this out there one of my JTEs is married to the head of our Board of Education. ^^