What would Miss Manners do?

May 05, 2012 21:42

I received a wedding invitation recently that asks guests to RSVP at a website address ( Read more... )

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mrdreamjeans May 6 2012, 13:21:27 UTC
I'd call the couple and ask what their invitees are supposed to do, if they do not have access to the technology. It's actually a bit presumptuous of them to think everyone has it. I had an iPhone for 8 days and returned it. It wasn't relevant to how I live my life. I'm not interested in scanning bar codes, taking photos, playing music, playing games or texting (though, I know how to do so.) I just want it to be a damn phone!

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tbass May 6 2012, 18:04:32 UTC

I would wager that anyone who has an actual address to mail the invitation to also has access to the internet... Either at home, by phone, school, work or library. Not counting Amish people, I suppose.

The QR codes are a different matter, but it will only be a matter of time before they stop making phones that are not smart phones... So you guys might as well jump on board. Try finding a phone without a camera for example. It is practically impossible.

And can't your 3d DS scan QR codes Jeff? I just googled it and it looks like it can.

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mrdreamjeans May 7 2012, 00:08:22 UTC
I jumped on the bandwagon and jumped right back off:) I consider texting unnecessary, when just picking up the phone and calling is much more rewarding. I have a beautiful camera that I carry at all times and I flat out don't play online games, listen to music, nor do I have any interest in doing so. I don't want my phone to be a computer!

There is a ridiculous android phone that just came out that has a 5.5 inch screen ... the Samsung Galaxy. I've seen people holding them to the ears and it looks silly. If they stop making phones that are simple and don't cost an arm and a leg, I'll simply move back to a landline, before I am compelled into tripling my monthly costs. (Landlines won't go away entirely.) My bill went from $47/ month to over $100/month, just because of the media plan. I still think I made the right decision.

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tbass May 6 2012, 17:32:10 UTC

I can pretty much say that anyone I would want to invite to a wedding has the internet

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technoshaman May 6 2012, 19:39:02 UTC
I can't say that. My own sainted mother, for example, doesn't even have a computer, or a cellphone, much less a pocketable CRAY-1 with a miniature HD-capable broadcast facility and a satnav... Dad at least has a laptop and a Google account, but his phone is a dumb candy-bar; scanner is right out. I'm pretty sure everyone else at least has Interwebs.... at least on my list...

Hmmm. You know, it occurs to me that my bride and I haven't had that conversation. Do we (a) kill trees and postage budgets and provide the usual RSVP slips in the invites? (b) Send paper invites but invite folks to respond electronically (call, email, url)? (c) Save the trees altogether and send PDFs and let folks print if they want a keepsake? I think I'm inclined towards (b)... but it is an interesting point!

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beki May 6 2012, 20:06:15 UTC
You could always run off to Las Vegas to elope. You can get married by Elvis in the back of a convertible pink Cadillac at the drive through window if you want to make it a quick trip...

Then have a party afterwards....

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mermaidlady May 6 2012, 20:34:38 UTC
Miss Manners would say to send an acceptance (or regrets) note to the couple. That's her advice when faced with an RSVP card.

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drlaurac May 7 2012, 15:43:02 UTC
The library. As long as your community has a public library, or even a FedEx office, you do have access to the Internet. And responding that way saves paper, though not the Post Office. Perhaps a phone number would have been a welcome addition?

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nekoken May 10 2012, 01:28:29 UTC
Should be receiving another of those in next couple of weeks. Only grandparents on guest list do not use internet so... But url will not be on invitation itself. Too gauche.

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