I was thinking about Virginia this evening while I was at work. I was also thinking about the past. As tends to happen when I'm thinking overly much about nothing in particular
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"Yes! and True! this is nothing but self-motivated Narcisism. I need to feel better about who I am. This can't happen until I make up for the things that have gone on in the past. Because I can't help but continue to keep thinking about them
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We don't see it as self-involved narcissism but as learning from your mistakes and wanting to mend things with people you feel you may have wronged in the past. Nothing narcissistic about that! I would go for it. Of course, as you say, it is not possible to set everything right, but as much as possible you should try, even if it's just a note, or replacing that record (reminds me, we have a very similar situation with a book, we should take care of that).
And yes, many other people have such thoughts. Jewish tradition sets aside a special day (Erev Yom Kippur) to make amends to others.
My humble opinion.dizzy1December 10 2007, 20:17:31 UTC
May I remind you that narcissism is a necessary part of everyone's psyche. Without at least a moderate amount of self love, we cannot effectively love others due to a systemic neglect of self.
Do not forget the things you've done that may have "wronged" anyone. Learn from it, apologize if you have the opportunity to do so... if it is within your means to make it up to them without hurting yourself financially or otherwise, than cool beans- do so. Intent can be so much more important that anything else. So long as you convey your intentions, that's usually good enough.
Rather than wasting perfectly good energy complaining about what is wrong, put it to good use fixing it or finding a feasible solution, right?. So long as you've made amends with yourself, the rest should fall into place.
Either way, I hope I am not included in those thoughts, 'cause I have no reason to feel slighted by you, and hope nothin but happy for you this holiday season.
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And yes, many other people have such thoughts. Jewish tradition sets aside a special day (Erev Yom Kippur) to make amends to others.
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Do not forget the things you've done that may have "wronged" anyone. Learn from it, apologize if you have the opportunity to do so... if it is within your means to make it up to them without hurting yourself financially or otherwise, than cool beans- do so. Intent can be so much more important that anything else. So long as you convey your intentions, that's usually good enough.
Rather than wasting perfectly good energy complaining about what is wrong, put it to good use fixing it or finding a feasible solution, right?. So long as you've made amends with yourself, the rest should fall into place.
Either way, I hope I am not included in those thoughts, 'cause I have no reason to feel slighted by you, and hope nothin but happy for you this holiday season.
Be well. :-)
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