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[jianantonic]

I've been processing some of the Really Bad Shit that happened in my marriage lately. Something triggered a memory of one of the most awful things that McKenzie ever did to me, and I've been having a hugely emotional reaction for the last couple of days. I think the main issue is that when I learned about it first two years ago, we were just

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[pinkhorizons]

Hugs!

I feel like sometimes I just need validation: this thing was really wrong and I need that acknowledged that so that I can move forward.

"Toby is so good to me, I am motivated to be the kind of wonderful he believes I am." I think that's really true, that being with someone who treats you well is motivation to do the same. It's so good to be with someone who brings out the best in you and makes you want to be your best self :)

[deepseasiren]

That's a really great way to put it...VALIDATION. You said it all in one word :)

[deepseasiren]

It would bother me a great deal if for example I broke up with Walter and he only took 'a little bit' of responsibility for the breakup because he knows what his flaws are and what triggers our issues. I fully admit probably being MORE than half responsible for our issues, but it pissed me off one time when he said I was 'nearly all responsible for it'. It's about closure, I think, Meg, and how you feel you need McKenzie to owe up to his mistakes fully and just how much he hurt you.

* HUGS *