family

[joe3joe]

Sitting in a generic booth at Casey's yesterday evening with my father and my sister I began to admire the decorations on the wall. There were pictures kids fishing, dogs running and families generally enjoying each other's company. From these pictures I began to feel as if I were in someone's home. That I was getting a glimpse of someone's happy

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[mr_mysterio7]

My grandparents celebrate their 50th soon. I'm not sure exactly when. And, I have complete faith that my parents will also make that milestone and many more beyond.

I believe that familial happiness is all what you make of it. Just because some families aren't the traditional nuclear families, doesn't mean there's any less love or happiness in the family unit.

At the same time, I don't believe in setting out a concrete plan to achieve those goals. If things aren't meant to happen, they'll happen. Flaws are inherently a part of any relationship, it's all about the comprises that are made to mitigate those flaws that make for a happy family.

[joe3joe]

i wasn't saying that it was completely impossible.. just highly unlikely... and i know that your parents are happy... but i think that that is very rare.

i also wasn't saying that we as a people have a plan ... i was referring more to unconsious expectations... i thought i had made that clear.. but i guess not.

it was just something that i was thinking about... dont' read too much into it... it just reflects my family situation that's all... and i dont' think any amount of comprimise could have saved my parents marriage, b/c that would be asking them to be completely different people then they are.

and to tell you the truth i think that i've had a much better life with them being divorced

[smarties__1]

i've met people that have been together 25 years, and they're happy. happiness is what you create, just like, to me, family is what you create. someone told me once that family is what you make of it and it's not always blood, and this applies if you think of family the way you are when you look at those pictures: people who love you and accept you and who you can always go to and seek refuge, unconditional love and support. and you know what? for a large majority of people, that definition of 'family' is far from who their blood relatives are. i think growing up in houses like you and i grew up in will make us a little wiser not to just pursue things because they fit into the social 'norm', meaning you and i will not rush into a marriage just because we think we're suppose to or that we're getting to 'that time in our lives'. it's not an ultimate goal that determines success, but a choice you make when you find the right person, whoever and whenever that may occur. i think we learn from the mistakes, and we see that, even

[joe3joe]

thanks, you've reminded me of the ideals that i use to have...and i guess have just forgotten about over the past couple of years

to tell you the truth throughout highschool i never really thought of my family as being a family... and i always thought of well you.. and anyone else that i was close to as being my make shift family.

i wasn't really trying to be sappy and i wasn't bothered about what i was typing before... it was just something that i was thinking about... that i needed to put on paper.
but i definately agree with everything that you just wrote.