I really don't agree with the whole picking territory thing as you say, you just have to walk into a place with confidence...I don't care if an ex is there. It's just another person in a crowd of people.
I find myself in many of the same dilemmas Joe. I'm not exactly sure what the answer is. All I know is that if you DO choose the friendship route, it leads to many relapses of heartache... it also could lead to a complete healing. I feel like if you completely cut off the person that no more than a short time ago, you were madly in love with it's difficult for you to see them as any more than a heartbreaking cad. If you continue to be friends at least maybe you'll begin to see why you loved them in the first place.
I believe it is harder to stop loving a person (and not neccessarily BETTER) than it is to morph your love for that person.Regaurdless of whether or not they are "the one" to some extent you KNOW you're compatible. They may not be a great lover for you, but they could be a great friend.
"On the flip side, being forced into a friendship with a man you haven't even had the chance to resolve your feelings for is a sure-fire way to a long, agonizing road towards lust, jealously, and a continuously broken heart."
Oh yeah. Oh yeah....I've never been able to be friends with my exes because of, well pretty much exactly the quote above.
Good luck-- if you can be friends, you're a strong man.
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(so sex in the city-esque, if i do say so myself)
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I'm not exactly sure what the answer is.
All I know is that if you DO choose the friendship route, it leads to many relapses of heartache... it also could lead to a complete healing. I feel like if you completely cut off the person that no more than a short time ago, you were madly in love with it's difficult for you to see them as any more than a heartbreaking cad. If you continue to be friends at least maybe you'll begin to see why you loved them in the first place.
I believe it is harder to stop loving a person (and not neccessarily BETTER) than it is to morph your love for that person.Regaurdless of whether or not they are "the one" to some extent you KNOW you're compatible. They may not be a great lover for you, but they could be a great friend.
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Oh yeah. Oh yeah....I've never been able to be friends with my exes because of, well pretty much exactly the quote above.
Good luck-- if you can be friends, you're a strong man.
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