Recent events regarding John Edwards

[liberalangel]

I'm pretty sure no one reading this has failed to catch some of the news stories about John's affair. Looking at some of the group's recent Friends entries, I can see that there are a lot of emotions from you guys on this story.

I thought it might be good to have a post here, if you would like to share your thoughts and feelings, especially with

Comments

[invisiblelove]

I was absolutely shocked when I heard about this. I NEVER would have thought he would be one to be unfaithful. Even though I don't know him personally, I feel kind of betrayed. I believed in and supported him so much. I'm really glad that he realizes what a horrible thing he's done and it looks like his and Elizabeth's marriage is going to be okay, but I'm never going to be able to look at him the same again.

And I absolutely agree. Most of all, I feel sorry for Elizabeth. She's dealing with enough as it is with her health troubles. I swear, I really hope the media doesn't start hounding her. She's such a class act. That's the very last thing she deserves.

SO unfortunate.

[nzraya]

I still believe in their love, and I've been married long enough to know that "unconditional love" is not the same as "never fucking up." So.

I, too, regret the needless and painful media spotlight this puts on Elizabeth, and in particular the prurient, voyeuristic packhound media that insisted on sniffing out what should have remained a private matter within the Edwards family (which appears to have dealt with it in its own way long before the Enquirer chose to break the story in the ugliest way possible).

[vulgarweed]

I agree with nzraya. In addition, I've always been deeply skeptical of monogamy, at least as defined in terms of "sexual exclusivity for life." I mean, even if it were possible for most people, which obviously it isn't....I've never really (fundamentally, emotionally, in my gut) understood why anyone would want that.

It's not the sex that bugs me, ever. It's the lying, if there was any...and Elizabeth said that at least he did tell her. So it's between the two of them, IMO. If she chooses to forgive him, I'll follow her lead.

But I'm also a trashy fangirl and I wish the Enquirer had pix of him and JK instead. (Or, hell, Howard Dean or Russ Feingold or Barack Obama or....)

in spite / because

[hohaiyee]

If someone who's both my bestfriend and lover, who has been my sole confident for years and years, fell chronically ill, I would be so stress and fucking LOST. Elizabeth has been John's support for years, so yes, him turning to another woman was rotten, but understandable, if he's so used to her supporting him, her being the strong one, that he'll end up looking for solace elsewhere when he's distressed by the whole situation.

Ditto the doubts about monogamical love. It's too much expectation, too much stress. If I evar have the misfortune to be ill, I rather my partner destress with a stringless affair, so that he/she can be stronger with me, than both of us sleeping alone. That and vice versa.